What If The Secret To Success Is Failure Analysis

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Register to read the introduction… In Paul Tough’s article, “What if the Secret to Success is Failure,” he demonstrates the issue with an over-zealous parent. Although encouragement is uplifting for your child, and neglect is considered mental abuse, a parent must find a happy medium. Tough found that a large percentage of children from a prestigious private school raised in homes with wealthy parents ended up dropping out of college after a short time. After comparing the students from the private school to an inner-city public school, he found the students were not that different. The truth of the matter is, children who are told how wonderful they are end up falling short of what life throws at them, because after all, they thought they were wonderful so they didn’t try hard enough. And in contrast, children raised by neglectful parents tend to have extremely low self-esteem and fall short of their academic tasks simply because they were raised to believe they would. Both cases are considered parental neglect. A father that tells his son every day how smart he is, yet never checks his homework or offers to help, is a father who is neglecting his son’s education. The outcome of this boy’s future will be no different than the child whose parents abused him and hardly ever came home at night. Fact is fact, children need structured parenting to …show more content…
Although it is less likely for a child to fail because he or she has too much ego than a child to fail because of mental abuse, a large percentage of wealthy children do tend to fail due to the parenting they were subjected to. Parents could do their children a massive favor by devoting time to them instead of devoting money, or not devoting anything at all. Psychologically, children need a healthy bond with their parents from a young age to live a successful life. Foster parents with mentally wounded or spoiled foster children should take on the task of creating the mental bond with the child. Helping the wounded child feel love and support is the first step to helping them achieve their academic goals from grade school to college. Although poverty stricken adolescences are the epitome of high school drops, and wealthy children are the common Ivy League graduate, these stereotypes are mostly based on parenting, parenting which is not as involved with money as people usually would suspect.

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“Implementation of the Individuals with Disabilities” Education Act. U.S. Department of Education, Washington,

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