What Grown-Ups Are Missing About Boys

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In Anna North’s New York Times article, “What Grown-Ups Are Missing About Boys,” the focal point is how boys, relatively have been understudied when it comes to social behaviors deemed cruel and damaging, in comparison to girls (North, Para. 1). Reason being is that these behaviors or “relational aggression,” are generally attributed to females (2014, Mean Girls), in North’s article, a study conducted by Dr. Orpinas reveals, the percentage of boys that displayed relational aggression in early years, outweighed the percentage of girls (North, Para. 3). The results explicitly debunk a myth that girls are more malicious within their social circles when compared to the opposite sex.

Dr. Orpinas study in particular shows how common relational

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