What About Flirting?
Do you know people who flirt? Is flirting cheating or just innocent ? What do the Scriptures say about flirting?
Did you answer “yes” to these questions? This section will answer those questions and perhaps offer some facts about flirting that you may not have known.
Are You a Flirt?
A missionary friend of mine submitted the following comments. She writes:
I did mission work in Asia and while learning their cultures, I learned more about my western culture and myself. After being in one area a few months, I heard them talking about playing with eyes between male and female. I was curious so asked what that meant and then went further to ask if my partner or I ever did that. They told me that my partner did it sometimes, …show more content…
Are you spending too much time talking to him/her?
Not only does an individual need to consider the content of messages, but also the amount of time sending messages back and forth. One woman spent two hours every night on Facebook chatting with her online friend until she realized that was more time than she spent with her husband.
4. Do you rationalize the situation?
If you are involved with innocent conversations, you don’t explain it, saying, “He’s just a friend.” If this is a safe friendship, why do you need to justify it? If it is obvious to you and your spouse that it is a safe friendship, then it is completely appropriate. However, if you are wrestling with guilt or feel the need to rationalize, you are probably participating in an unsafe friendship.
5. Does this person meet your personal needs?
Do you feel you are getting your intimacy needs met with your online “friend” were with a coworker with whom you flirt, then stop and ask yourself why. Caution, don’t share intimate personal things with others and fail to share those things with your husband or wife. Beware if your coworker or online “friend” seems to understand you better than your spouse. (REFERENCE BACK OR FORWARD TO SECTION REGARDING PREVENTION …show more content…
Imagine your spouse overhearing your conversation? Would you still say it?
7. Does your spouse dislike this behavior?
It’s a red flag if your wife or husband expressed disapproval of your conversations with X. Either the content of the communications or the amount of it is out of balance—the interaction is inappropriate. Is your flirting behavior with another person distracting from involvement in your family life?
8. Does a friend voiced concern?
Is a good friend questioning why you talk so much about this person or does she say, “You’re married. He’s married. Stop obsessing on what you don’t have and start focusing on all the good things you do have. Mothers, sisters, and friends can often see these red flags before a person is willing to identify them in herself.
9. Are your intentions wrong?
Perhaps your wife belittles you, nags you, and tells you lose 25 pounds because she doesn’t like being married to a blimp. The easy thing to do is to find an attractive woman who will build up your ego and tell you that you are funny, smart, sexy, and so on. Perhaps you seek out an admirer to make your spouse jealous or to pay attention to you. It can work, but it is
Do you know people who flirt? Is flirting cheating or just innocent ? What do the Scriptures say about flirting?
Did you answer “yes” to these questions? This section will answer those questions and perhaps offer some facts about flirting that you may not have known.
Are You a Flirt?
A missionary friend of mine submitted the following comments. She writes:
I did mission work in Asia and while learning their cultures, I learned more about my western culture and myself. After being in one area a few months, I heard them talking about playing with eyes between male and female. I was curious so asked what that meant and then went further to ask if my partner or I ever did that. They told me that my partner did it sometimes, …show more content…
Are you spending too much time talking to him/her?
Not only does an individual need to consider the content of messages, but also the amount of time sending messages back and forth. One woman spent two hours every night on Facebook chatting with her online friend until she realized that was more time than she spent with her husband.
4. Do you rationalize the situation?
If you are involved with innocent conversations, you don’t explain it, saying, “He’s just a friend.” If this is a safe friendship, why do you need to justify it? If it is obvious to you and your spouse that it is a safe friendship, then it is completely appropriate. However, if you are wrestling with guilt or feel the need to rationalize, you are probably participating in an unsafe friendship.
5. Does this person meet your personal needs?
Do you feel you are getting your intimacy needs met with your online “friend” were with a coworker with whom you flirt, then stop and ask yourself why. Caution, don’t share intimate personal things with others and fail to share those things with your husband or wife. Beware if your coworker or online “friend” seems to understand you better than your spouse. (REFERENCE BACK OR FORWARD TO SECTION REGARDING PREVENTION …show more content…
Imagine your spouse overhearing your conversation? Would you still say it?
7. Does your spouse dislike this behavior?
It’s a red flag if your wife or husband expressed disapproval of your conversations with X. Either the content of the communications or the amount of it is out of balance—the interaction is inappropriate. Is your flirting behavior with another person distracting from involvement in your family life?
8. Does a friend voiced concern?
Is a good friend questioning why you talk so much about this person or does she say, “You’re married. He’s married. Stop obsessing on what you don’t have and start focusing on all the good things you do have. Mothers, sisters, and friends can often see these red flags before a person is willing to identify them in herself.
9. Are your intentions wrong?
Perhaps your wife belittles you, nags you, and tells you lose 25 pounds because she doesn’t like being married to a blimp. The easy thing to do is to find an attractive woman who will build up your ego and tell you that you are funny, smart, sexy, and so on. Perhaps you seek out an admirer to make your spouse jealous or to pay attention to you. It can work, but it is