We're dating. By 'we' I mean my husband of 27 years and of course me. John decided a few months ago that he wanted to make some major changes.
John has always been incredibly conservative. Watching every penny, worrying about every event, predicting all possible outcomes and then sort of holding his breath to see if his predictions would come true. These qualities may sound dull as you read them, but the truth is that they've made him a terrific husband and devoted father. We've always known that John had all eventualities covered. The boys and I have always felt entirely secure regarding finances and knew that John was totally and completely devoted to us all.
Apparently John has now decided to do a 180! The man is changing right before …show more content…
We don't have to know exactly what we want our lives to look like, but an idea certainly helps. For instance, John didn't know that he was going to become someone who wanted to go places as frequently as he now does. He's always been a homebody. But, he did decide that it was time to embrace a more light-hearted approach to life. He made the decision that he would find ways to get out from time to time with his amazing wife (that's me) and that he would enjoy what life offers, knowing and trusting that his hard work and diligence has laid a good foundation. He's not become frivolous by any means, but he is having more fun than …show more content…
After all, what's done is done. We can look at the past, we can learn from it, but we have absolutely no ability to change it. I'm proud of him for beginning to accept that the past is done and to forgive mistakes made by himself and others. Again, a big step.
Probably the biggest change in John is that he is focusing on the amazing life he has led and intends to go on living. He frequently brings up the fun we had raising our three sons. He speaks with pride about their accomplishments, no matter how small. Reminiscing about camping trips and time spent being active in Boy Scouts. He's excited when he talks about them visiting us or a vacation to see any of them. In short, this man has become hopeful and silly excited about his future. Hooray!
I often speak to my clients, whether Reiki clients or coaching clients about re-framing their speech to see a positive viewpoint. It truly changes the way we feel and think. Affirmations are a powerful tool that we can use as well. Writing and talking to ourselves about the positive changes we are bringing about in our own lives. These things are sometimes overlooked or forgotten because they are so very simple. But they work. It's pretty much that
John has always been incredibly conservative. Watching every penny, worrying about every event, predicting all possible outcomes and then sort of holding his breath to see if his predictions would come true. These qualities may sound dull as you read them, but the truth is that they've made him a terrific husband and devoted father. We've always known that John had all eventualities covered. The boys and I have always felt entirely secure regarding finances and knew that John was totally and completely devoted to us all.
Apparently John has now decided to do a 180! The man is changing right before …show more content…
We don't have to know exactly what we want our lives to look like, but an idea certainly helps. For instance, John didn't know that he was going to become someone who wanted to go places as frequently as he now does. He's always been a homebody. But, he did decide that it was time to embrace a more light-hearted approach to life. He made the decision that he would find ways to get out from time to time with his amazing wife (that's me) and that he would enjoy what life offers, knowing and trusting that his hard work and diligence has laid a good foundation. He's not become frivolous by any means, but he is having more fun than …show more content…
After all, what's done is done. We can look at the past, we can learn from it, but we have absolutely no ability to change it. I'm proud of him for beginning to accept that the past is done and to forgive mistakes made by himself and others. Again, a big step.
Probably the biggest change in John is that he is focusing on the amazing life he has led and intends to go on living. He frequently brings up the fun we had raising our three sons. He speaks with pride about their accomplishments, no matter how small. Reminiscing about camping trips and time spent being active in Boy Scouts. He's excited when he talks about them visiting us or a vacation to see any of them. In short, this man has become hopeful and silly excited about his future. Hooray!
I often speak to my clients, whether Reiki clients or coaching clients about re-framing their speech to see a positive viewpoint. It truly changes the way we feel and think. Affirmations are a powerful tool that we can use as well. Writing and talking to ourselves about the positive changes we are bringing about in our own lives. These things are sometimes overlooked or forgotten because they are so very simple. But they work. It's pretty much that