When you are in an abusive relationship, the abuser will constantly check up on you and you will begin to feel that you have no control over your own life. Abuser have a pattern for their cycle of violence. They will abuse you with aggression, criticizing you, or using physical abuse to show you that they are in control. After abusing you, they usually feel guilty, but not for hurting you. They are more worried about if they get caught for their abusive behavior. They will blame you for the abuse so that they do not have to take responsibility. They will exhibit normal behavior to regain control over you and make you feel that they have changed. Often an abuser will fantasize about hurting you and planning the next episode by thinking of all
