Video Analysis: Family Peacemaker

The video I watched was a short clip that showed a helper named Mark talk to a client named Alisa and focus on reflecting her feelings. Alisa is talking about how she feels responsible to take all the responsibility to make sure the family is getting along and solving any conflicts that arise. She recognizes that she can’t help but take on this role as the family peacemaker but doesn’t want to. This exercise focused on trying to understand how the helper identified Alisa’s feelings that she didn’t state as well as well as adding how we might feel if we were in her shoes.
I liked the question that asked us to imagine we were her and then try to identify additional emotions she didn’t mention. I listed additionally on top of her feeling …show more content…
She even states that she doesn’t think it’s anyone’s responsibility but unless someone else steps up to the plate she feels she can’t really relax. Perhaps if anyone else helped she would feel supported and not think the weight solely rested on one person. The reason I say trapped is because if I felt a position must be filled, and no one else does it, then because you believe this position must exist you could feel cornered. I personally would feel trapped if this was happening to me and I felt how she did state. The helper did a good job of paying attention to her and I thought it was interesting how she was smiling and laughing as she mentions how she is actually very upset at her brother for leaving her to take of things. I think it’s interesting because this is something people tend to do to minimize their negative emotions. Even with her laughing and smiling he uses the word resentment to reflect how she is feeling and she agrees that word is correct. On a personal level I feel that I probably just keep repeating similar things because I already pay a lot of attention to people when they are speaking. If anything though throughout this course I am just trying to be extra aware of when my opinion of the situation is coloring