The Theme Of Grief In Charles Dickens 'Great Expectations'

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At some point in a person's life they are faced with grief. It may be due to death or a breakup. However, it is how they handle it that shows who they really are. In Charles Dickens Great Expectations two characters are faced with grief and handle it very differently. Joe Gargery, Pip’s father, had and an awful childhood and decided to not let another child go through what he did. Ms. Havisham was jilted on her wedding day and decided to stop living. They have both had agony in their life and dealt with it on extremely different levels.
Joe Gargery has a kind and forgiving nature. When Joe and Pip are sitting by the fire, Joe explains he had an abusive alcoholic father. Even after all of the awful things his father did to him, he forgives him. Joe explains to Pip, “... And it were my intentions to have had put upon his tombstone that Whatsume’er the failings on his part, Remember reader he were that good in his hart”(36). Joe shows tremendous forgiveness toward his father. He abused his mother, denied him an education, and chased them
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Dickens has written these people as a type of metaphor, showing readers two extremes of lamenting. He delineated in this bildungsroman novel that people are shaped by their surroundings, they are not born vengeful or forgiving. If Pip never met
Estella he may still love his life at the forge. As he looks back at his life he wishes that he did not make those mistakes and realized that Estella and Ms. Havisham are not normal. Readers can relate to Pip, taking granted for things people didn’t know could be taken away. Or Joe, how he wants to remember that his father was a good person but in reality he was not. And Miss Havisham, how when people are hurt by a person they thought loved them actually was just using them. Despite actions one has faced, these characters show that everyone is human at one point in their

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