Throughout Romeo and Juliet, Shakespeare exhibits both romantic and identity crushes to tell the story of two star-crossed lovers. What even is a romantic and identity crush? In both cases, “the young person largely projects onto another person idealized attributes the admirer highly values and wants to be associated with” (Pickhardt 2). According to the article Adolescence and the Teenage Crush, Romantic crushes are formed by finding someone whom they find powerfully attractive, who they feel excited to be around, and with whom they want to spend most of their time with. Contradicting romantic crushes, identity crushes are formed by finding someone they much admire, want to become like, and treat as a leader or model they are eager to imitate
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Describing the role parents play in this scenario, “This is a hard situation, but in general parents need to respect the friendship, get to know the friend, and if there are behaviors the friend is into that parents don’t want for their son, they need to talk to him about not doing those activities. Sometimes they discover that beneath the appearance they find alarming is a person they get to like”(Pickhardt 12). Shakespeare strategizes by including this type of crush towards the beginning of the story when Romeo is depressed over a reject from a girl. Friar Lawrence sends Benvolio, who is considered the identity crush in this situation, to check up on him, rather than going himself as a father figure. In which whom obtains more knowledge and information than a teenage boy. According to the excerpt from scene one, act one of Romeo and Juliet, Friar Lawrence starts off by explaining the dilemma at hand to Benvolio, “Both by myself and many other friends. But he, his own affections' counselor, Is to himself—I will not say how true, But to himself so secret and so close, So far from sounding and discovery, As is the bud bit with an envious worm, Ere he can spread his sweet leaves to the air, Or dedicate his beauty to the same. Could we but learn from whence his sorrows grow. We would as willingly give cure as know” (Shakespeare 1.1.136-145). Benvolio responds with: “See, where he comes. So please you, step aside. I’ll know his grievance or be much denied” (Shakespeare 1.1.145-147). Benvolio has a lengthy conversation with Romeo; however, he finally is able to convince him with this line, “Be ruled by me. Forget to think of her. By giving liberty unto thine eyes. Examine other beauties” (Shakespeare 1.1.165-166). As a result, Benvolio was able to convince Romeo to attend that party that night where later that evening he’d meet Juliet. In which, the
Describing the role parents play in this scenario, “This is a hard situation, but in general parents need to respect the friendship, get to know the friend, and if there are behaviors the friend is into that parents don’t want for their son, they need to talk to him about not doing those activities. Sometimes they discover that beneath the appearance they find alarming is a person they get to like”(Pickhardt 12). Shakespeare strategizes by including this type of crush towards the beginning of the story when Romeo is depressed over a reject from a girl. Friar Lawrence sends Benvolio, who is considered the identity crush in this situation, to check up on him, rather than going himself as a father figure. In which whom obtains more knowledge and information than a teenage boy. According to the excerpt from scene one, act one of Romeo and Juliet, Friar Lawrence starts off by explaining the dilemma at hand to Benvolio, “Both by myself and many other friends. But he, his own affections' counselor, Is to himself—I will not say how true, But to himself so secret and so close, So far from sounding and discovery, As is the bud bit with an envious worm, Ere he can spread his sweet leaves to the air, Or dedicate his beauty to the same. Could we but learn from whence his sorrows grow. We would as willingly give cure as know” (Shakespeare 1.1.136-145). Benvolio responds with: “See, where he comes. So please you, step aside. I’ll know his grievance or be much denied” (Shakespeare 1.1.145-147). Benvolio has a lengthy conversation with Romeo; however, he finally is able to convince him with this line, “Be ruled by me. Forget to think of her. By giving liberty unto thine eyes. Examine other beauties” (Shakespeare 1.1.165-166). As a result, Benvolio was able to convince Romeo to attend that party that night where later that evening he’d meet Juliet. In which, the