## The Two Most Important Lessons (And How to Kiss Self-Help Goodbye)
So I wrote a post on reddit talking about [my four agreements](https://www.reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/comments/4m2dp1/my_4_agreements/). My four agreements are inspired by don Miguel Ruiz 's book, *[The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom](http://amzn.to/1XWYXPC)*
I decided to take my six most important lessons I have listed in the [summary](http://badassu.net/summary/) and condense them to only four.
The simplicity makes my lessons more actionable, which I love.
However, four still seems like too much to hold in your head while going about our daily lives. Can I condense them to even less and make them even more actionable? No, I can 't. Those …show more content…
Don 't underestimate these. Let 's go through each one by one.
##Organic Decision Making
Organic decision making is for the most part brainstorming with people you know.
But it 's much more than that. It 's about telling them what is on your mind, opening up about your true [heart 's desire](http://badassu.net/follow-your-heart/), and not holding anything back when it comes to your dreams.
It all comes down to the fact that, no matter how smart you are, two heads are better than one. You 'll get better results and a better chance of making your dreams come true by sharing them with others.
Sure, there are some cool self-help tactics out there on the internet, but how do you know the article you are reading has the answer to your problem? Should you change your [mindset](http://badassu.net/mindset-the-key-to-happiness/) or your [environment](http://badassu.net/simplicity/)? Which tactic should you use? Or is there something else you need to consider? You simply don 't …show more content…
In other words, don 't just do it with your parents or spouse, find others to talk to about your problems.
So how does this fall into our four agreements?
First of all, it is **agreement #2: Use organic decision making**.
The first agreement is about our intuition: **Always listen to your intuition, agreement #1**.
When you talk to people about events in your life, you 'll eventually, if you haven 't already, come to the conclusion that [red flags](http://badassu.net/there-is-always-a-red-flag/) should never be ignored and [green flags](http://badassu.net/green-flags/) are to be trusted.
Next, when you open up to people about your deepest desires, you naturally connect to others. And that is **agreement #3: You are a part of the whole**. Remember, [happiness is external](http://badassu.net/is-true-happiness-internal-or-external/). In other words, happiness comes from our relationships.
And when you start opening up to people, you 'll find your group eventually.
Plus, if you are always doing organic decision making with your friends, it 's only a matter of time before you start planning for epic things, start to not take things so seriously, and start having fun each day. And that is **agreement #4: Do something epic each
So I wrote a post on reddit talking about [my four agreements](https://www.reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/comments/4m2dp1/my_4_agreements/). My four agreements are inspired by don Miguel Ruiz 's book, *[The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom](http://amzn.to/1XWYXPC)*
I decided to take my six most important lessons I have listed in the [summary](http://badassu.net/summary/) and condense them to only four.
The simplicity makes my lessons more actionable, which I love.
However, four still seems like too much to hold in your head while going about our daily lives. Can I condense them to even less and make them even more actionable? No, I can 't. Those …show more content…
Don 't underestimate these. Let 's go through each one by one.
##Organic Decision Making
Organic decision making is for the most part brainstorming with people you know.
But it 's much more than that. It 's about telling them what is on your mind, opening up about your true [heart 's desire](http://badassu.net/follow-your-heart/), and not holding anything back when it comes to your dreams.
It all comes down to the fact that, no matter how smart you are, two heads are better than one. You 'll get better results and a better chance of making your dreams come true by sharing them with others.
Sure, there are some cool self-help tactics out there on the internet, but how do you know the article you are reading has the answer to your problem? Should you change your [mindset](http://badassu.net/mindset-the-key-to-happiness/) or your [environment](http://badassu.net/simplicity/)? Which tactic should you use? Or is there something else you need to consider? You simply don 't …show more content…
In other words, don 't just do it with your parents or spouse, find others to talk to about your problems.
So how does this fall into our four agreements?
First of all, it is **agreement #2: Use organic decision making**.
The first agreement is about our intuition: **Always listen to your intuition, agreement #1**.
When you talk to people about events in your life, you 'll eventually, if you haven 't already, come to the conclusion that [red flags](http://badassu.net/there-is-always-a-red-flag/) should never be ignored and [green flags](http://badassu.net/green-flags/) are to be trusted.
Next, when you open up to people about your deepest desires, you naturally connect to others. And that is **agreement #3: You are a part of the whole**. Remember, [happiness is external](http://badassu.net/is-true-happiness-internal-or-external/). In other words, happiness comes from our relationships.
And when you start opening up to people, you 'll find your group eventually.
Plus, if you are always doing organic decision making with your friends, it 's only a matter of time before you start planning for epic things, start to not take things so seriously, and start having fun each day. And that is **agreement #4: Do something epic each