The Theme Of Love In Raymond Carver

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Love in Carver.
Carver doesn't talk about Love. He doesn't mention love. The word love comes up only twice in Will you please be quiet, please? just as a vocative. It's not used at all in A small, good thing. Does Carver talk about love? What links these people? What brought them together in the first place? And, what's love from his point of view?
In the beginning of Will you please be quiet, please?, Carver says that Ralph's father told him that life was a 'very serious matter'. Ralph, however, was lost, so he couldn't take this matter as seriously as necessary. When he met Marian, nothing really great or strong brought them together. He simply 'liked going out with Marian Ross'. They even went to the lengths of not letting their relationship interfere with their studies. Therefore, they had no problems, for instance, meeting with their parents approval. It seems they
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There is no craziness. Nobody has given up anything for each other. It makes us wonder if there's love. There's something close to jealousy, though. Jealousy can be seen as a sign of love, but it can also be understood as a feeling of possession. Or even pride, hurt pride. So, what is it that makes Ralph hit her the first time? Is it love?
For some strange reason the end of the short story makes me think of love. But a love that's been born then. It seems that Ralph finally gives in to craziness. He finally accepts, after all he's been through that night, when he finds out she's cheated on him, all the crazy walk, talk, scenes of that weird night, when he gets home, he finally accepts her, her love, his love for her.
The second short story, A small, good thing, is different because, although Carver, again, doesn't talk about love – in this one this word is not mentioned once! – he shows it much more. Again, it can be read as love. It could be read as sadness and support, too. After all, their son is in hospital, fighting for his

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