I have definitely experienced the stages of communication breakdown with my partner. Me and my partner both played a role of criticism and defensiveness. I believe the reason being why I was very critical and defensiveness towards with my partner was because I struggle to have my partner to have his uninvited attention to me when I am speaking and when I feel that my partner is not giving me his full attention or forgetful, my frustration builds up. When my frustration builds up, I would criticize him. Another communication problem was when me and my partners would sometimes have debates on politics, science, education, etc. Since we both want to be vocal and are at times prideful about our opinions, we get too carried on and when one doesn
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In many situations, I was also not open and vulnerable to express my emotions and expected my partner to know what I was feeling. Our relationship toke a big turmoil, until we are able to understand that our communication was not healthy and could lead to an end in the relationship. My score for the communication breakdown quiz is an 18. The communication with my partner has improved with little breakdown, however, it still is a working progress. I believe that our communication has improved once we came to a mutual agreement to be honest, open-minded, and to stop being defensive. Before, when I would have arguments with my partner I was always too sensitive and boiling with emotions rather than being calm. Discussing issues became easier for me to handle when I was able to take time out to calm down, reflect, and then come back to my partner when I was ready to talk. I realize that it was acceptable to have different opinions, open to letting my partner feel that his opinions are just as important as mine. In addition, I needed to work on my …show more content…
However, as the relationship progress, partners would start to be exposed to the flaws of one another or certain situations where partners may not agree with one another, leading to more arguments(Feldman, 2014). As honeymoon phase of the relationship starts to decline, strong communication is crucial to making the relationship work. Avoiding the stages of communication breakdown is difficult because we all have different interests, way of dealing with situations, and all want to feel wanted or important to our partner. The most crucial part of communication is to be open- mined, calm, and non-judgmental. The moment one criticize and become defensive, your partner would not feel comfortable to be open to you. By being open-minded and supportive you open a communication of trust and allow your partner to feel more incline to go to you when there is issue. There is always room for improving in communication and my communication with my partner continues to be a working progress. Since we are able to talk to one another without criticizing anymore, we are more incline to going to one another to talk. We make sure that we make firm rules that our discussion involves taking turns, honesty, respect, and support. However, for me I believe I need to continue to remind myself that I can not blame my partner for the emotions that I feel and that it is my own responsibilities to deal with my own
In many situations, I was also not open and vulnerable to express my emotions and expected my partner to know what I was feeling. Our relationship toke a big turmoil, until we are able to understand that our communication was not healthy and could lead to an end in the relationship. My score for the communication breakdown quiz is an 18. The communication with my partner has improved with little breakdown, however, it still is a working progress. I believe that our communication has improved once we came to a mutual agreement to be honest, open-minded, and to stop being defensive. Before, when I would have arguments with my partner I was always too sensitive and boiling with emotions rather than being calm. Discussing issues became easier for me to handle when I was able to take time out to calm down, reflect, and then come back to my partner when I was ready to talk. I realize that it was acceptable to have different opinions, open to letting my partner feel that his opinions are just as important as mine. In addition, I needed to work on my …show more content…
However, as the relationship progress, partners would start to be exposed to the flaws of one another or certain situations where partners may not agree with one another, leading to more arguments(Feldman, 2014). As honeymoon phase of the relationship starts to decline, strong communication is crucial to making the relationship work. Avoiding the stages of communication breakdown is difficult because we all have different interests, way of dealing with situations, and all want to feel wanted or important to our partner. The most crucial part of communication is to be open- mined, calm, and non-judgmental. The moment one criticize and become defensive, your partner would not feel comfortable to be open to you. By being open-minded and supportive you open a communication of trust and allow your partner to feel more incline to go to you when there is issue. There is always room for improving in communication and my communication with my partner continues to be a working progress. Since we are able to talk to one another without criticizing anymore, we are more incline to going to one another to talk. We make sure that we make firm rules that our discussion involves taking turns, honesty, respect, and support. However, for me I believe I need to continue to remind myself that I can not blame my partner for the emotions that I feel and that it is my own responsibilities to deal with my own