Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work Summary

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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by Dr. John M. Gottman and Nan Silver has written a ground-breaking guide to show couples how to create a passionately intelligent relationship - and keep them on track, honest in their approach, yet intense in their efforts. The principles outlined in this book communicate to couples fresh and amazing strategies for making their marriage work. Dr. Gottman and Nan Silver have scientifically analyzed the habits of married couples and developed a technique of correcting their behaviors that puts thousands of marriages in jeopardy. The authors help couples develop a sense of single-mindedness for each other, consideration of their small day-to-day moments, and to make up the core and depth of their relationships. Crammed with exercises and questionnaires, the great track record, and effectiveness of the work have been tested and proven in Drs. Silver and Gottman 's workshops. This book is a conclusive guide for couples who wants their relationship to attain its maximum possibility.
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Like bodily fitness, the wellbeing of a relationship can be advanced to greater levels of fitness and resilience to illness. Thus, even healthy couples can benefit from a marital fitness perspective by developing exercises for enhancing their health and fitness. This book primarily serves couples interested in refining the fitness of their marriage relationship. However, the book made little or no reference to the spiritual health and well-being of couples. The writer would prefer a balanced approach of both physical and spiritual well-being. The writer strongly agrees with the seven principles and that they were well written and explained. Counselors and therapists may recommend this book to their

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