Sue Monk Kidd’s The Secret Life of Bees teaches its audience that mistakes have the potential to harm others. Not everyone suffers in the same way; however, one person's suffering can cause agony in another. T. Ray and Lily are a quality example of how one person's pain can cause others to suffer.
T. Ray experiences denial both during and after Deborah's abandonment. Lily finds out from August that he was deeply in love with her mother, but due to their different backgrounds, the feelings weren’t mutual. Her leaving caused frustration in T. Ray and his anger was misdirected at Lily. Terrence’s way of dealing with his newfound feelings of sadness and anger was to take them out on their daughter. He would make her kneel on dried grits until she bled and …show more content…
Ray did. When my uncle left for college, he left some of his T-shirts, video games, and books to me. When I use them or look at them, I'm reminded of him. Being able to feel and see his stuff makes it seem like he's closer to home. Lily feels the same way with her mother's belongings, which is why she's so attached to her mother's belongings. They brought feelings of protection and comfort. T. Ray was a different story. He bottled up his sadness; consequently, it came out as anger. This is something I struggle with because I don't really like to open up to people about myself or my emotions. This makes me seem bitter and angry to some people. It wasn't until the end of the book that Lilly saw, "an ocean of hurt" (296).
T. Ray hurt Lily both physically and mentally due to Deborah's departure. That was his way of coping. Lily, oh the other hand, did all sorts of things. She sought out a new mother figure, kept her mother's possessions close by, and spent time thinking about what her mother would be like. Deborah's choice to leave affected them both. In the end how they coped was insignificant, what truly mattered was what they accomplished after they moved
T. Ray experiences denial both during and after Deborah's abandonment. Lily finds out from August that he was deeply in love with her mother, but due to their different backgrounds, the feelings weren’t mutual. Her leaving caused frustration in T. Ray and his anger was misdirected at Lily. Terrence’s way of dealing with his newfound feelings of sadness and anger was to take them out on their daughter. He would make her kneel on dried grits until she bled and …show more content…
Ray did. When my uncle left for college, he left some of his T-shirts, video games, and books to me. When I use them or look at them, I'm reminded of him. Being able to feel and see his stuff makes it seem like he's closer to home. Lily feels the same way with her mother's belongings, which is why she's so attached to her mother's belongings. They brought feelings of protection and comfort. T. Ray was a different story. He bottled up his sadness; consequently, it came out as anger. This is something I struggle with because I don't really like to open up to people about myself or my emotions. This makes me seem bitter and angry to some people. It wasn't until the end of the book that Lilly saw, "an ocean of hurt" (296).
T. Ray hurt Lily both physically and mentally due to Deborah's departure. That was his way of coping. Lily, oh the other hand, did all sorts of things. She sought out a new mother figure, kept her mother's possessions close by, and spent time thinking about what her mother would be like. Deborah's choice to leave affected them both. In the end how they coped was insignificant, what truly mattered was what they accomplished after they moved