The Relationship Of Amir's Relationship In The Kite Runner

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The bond between father and son is an important aspect in the life of a young man. That bond, so sought after, may not always be one of love, but one filled with hurt and disappointment. In some cases, the son may not live up to the high expectations set in place for him. In Khaled Hosseini’s The Kite Runner, Amir and Baba’s relationship is highly based upon these expectations. Amir loved Baba, as Baba loved him, but Amir wanted to feel more love and attention which in return causes many pleas and attempts at approval. Baba can be described as a strong, athletic man, but when Amir does not possess the same attributes, Baba finds himself unsure how to react to multiple situations.
According to Amir, he will never be the athlete his father once
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Baba can be described as a “force of nature who could drop the devil to his knees begging for mercy,” (13). When Amir does not portray the same characteristics as his father, Baba becomes ashamed and embarrassed by Amir. For example, when they go to the Buzkashi tournament and the horseman falls off his horse and is then trampled. Amir says “I cried all the way back home… [and] I will never forget Baba’s valiant efforts to conceal the disgusted look on his face as he drove in silence” (21). When Baba sees Amir crying after the tournament, he is disgusted in Amir, as a strong man should never cry. Another example is when Amir asked Baba to get rid of Hassan and Ali because of Amir’s personal disputes with Hassan. “Baba, have you ever thought of getting new servants?” [He] turned to me now, his face as red as a tulip. “I’ve never laid a hand on you Amir, but you ever say that …show more content…
Baba knows that Amir will never be the perfect Afghan man and does not know any other way to react than with harsh words. Amir is greatly embarrassed with himself, as he has tried and failed to be the son Baba had always wished for.
Not every person within a relationship will share the exact same interests as the other. The differences in interests can become a conflict, resulting in miscmmunication and understanding. Because Amir and Baba are contrary to one another, they tend to devalue what the other values. An example being when Amir writes his first story.
[I] told him I had written a

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