The Pros And Cons Of Not Living Before Marriage

1528 Words 7 Pages
Living before marriage They say “Before marriage, a man declares that we would lay down his life to serve you; after marriage, he won’t even lay down his newspaper to talk to you” "Latest Quotes & Sayings." Search Quotes. Web. 15 Feb. 2016. Okay, that’s not true in every marriage but this happens to many couples because they start living together before they are married. Of course, this is 2016 and you don’t have to be married to live together. Although remember in the old days when you had to be marriage to do anything with a man. I would think that we started our roots like that for a reason and that we should still follow in those footsteps. There are also couples though that say they live together to “test” it out to see how it would be …show more content…
Out the 61.2 percent that lives together before marriage 14.3 percent says that they live together to test out the relationship and see what it would be like. DiDonato, Theresa E., Ph.D. "Should You Move-in Together, or Not?" Psychology Today., 15 July 2014. Web. I do see the upside to this because you get to see a little bit more of the person. You will get to see your partner’s habits and how he or she acts in a comfortable setting. You also get to see how well you two work together and get used to each other more. Although very good points I don’t think living together should get treated like an experiment. You shouldn’t live together with someone just for the experience. If wanting to know more about that person and their habits you should just go on more dates together. You can easily get to know someone the same way you will if you lived with them if you just spend more time with them long enough. In the “testing out” situations, they report more psychological aggressions, negative interactions, and less positive outcomes in overall. Rhoades, G. K., S. M. Stanley, and H. J. Markman. "Couples ' Reasons for Cohabitation: Associations With Individual Well-Being and Relationship Quality." Journal of Family Issues 30.2 (2008): 233-58. …show more content…
This would lower divorce rates in overall not just divorce rates between cohabitation and people that got married first before living together. Couples wouldn’t have to struggle financially or feel the pressure of anyone and on top of that, they will have all these new experiences in their lives. There is no need in life to rush things. Everything and everyone has a certain time when things will come. When in love you might feel that its best to just do things at the moment. This is not true you must think everything clearly when making a big decision like moving in together. As like marriage is a big decision but you will at least have that knowingly thought that you want to spend the rest of your life with your partner. Which indicates that you would want to live with that person also. You might not have this thought when just moving in together. Overall cohabitation isn’t the right choice to make for a couple. The best thing to do shown in surveys and statistically is to make that marriage commitment first and then move in

Related Documents