People become more and more judgmental and perceptual , distortions become greater and greater. Differences are highlighted, similarities overlooked, and the desire to understand the other position deteriorates quickly. The pressure finally is not to be objective or innovative, or seek the best solution, but to win at any cost. So a temporary winner emerges, but the disagreement is really not resolved. And the subjugation of differences lays the groundwork for future internal strife. When events trigger another conflict, all the feelings and agendas from previously unresolved conflicts rise to the surface and come into play.
One of the first things to do is to draw up a contract of fair fighting -- a list of ground rules, so to speak. At base, …show more content…
Why are we always in conflict with each other? What is the reason for this conflict? Children are in conflict with parents, spouses are in conflict with each other. People of one religion are in conflict with people of another religion. People are at times in conflict with things or people they are not even directly connected with. It happens because we love to identify ourselves with those in conflict and feel important .There are two types of conflicts. One with people we interact with in daily life and other with people at large. Conflicts happen because our hearts are at war.
Children when they become teenagers are often in conflict with the parents because they feel that the parents are out of tune with time and stuck up in their old ways. Children find the parents overbearing and dictating while parents feel that the children no longer respect them or listen to them. In the Internet age, where any information is just a click away, children feel empowered and tend to listen to the peers more than the parents. Here again the conflict is magnified because parents feel that the children must listen to them or learn from their experience while children feel that parents do not understand their need to move with the changing
One of the first things to do is to draw up a contract of fair fighting -- a list of ground rules, so to speak. At base, …show more content…
Why are we always in conflict with each other? What is the reason for this conflict? Children are in conflict with parents, spouses are in conflict with each other. People of one religion are in conflict with people of another religion. People are at times in conflict with things or people they are not even directly connected with. It happens because we love to identify ourselves with those in conflict and feel important .There are two types of conflicts. One with people we interact with in daily life and other with people at large. Conflicts happen because our hearts are at war.
Children when they become teenagers are often in conflict with the parents because they feel that the parents are out of tune with time and stuck up in their old ways. Children find the parents overbearing and dictating while parents feel that the children no longer respect them or listen to them. In the Internet age, where any information is just a click away, children feel empowered and tend to listen to the peers more than the parents. Here again the conflict is magnified because parents feel that the children must listen to them or learn from their experience while children feel that parents do not understand their need to move with the changing