The Pros And Cons Of Divorce

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Divorce was once an unheard of occurrence. People did not believe in it and kept their word of their vowels, “Till death do us part.” In earlier years, divorces were extremely regulated with strict laws. Majority of the time, spouses could only file for a divorce under certain circumstances such as if adultery was committed, if it was an abusive relationship, or if there was infidelity. But even then, there still had to be evidence to back up any accusations for the significant other to be proven guilty. This type of divorce is considered a fault divorce. Eventually, laws changed and no-fault divorces came a long. A no-fault divorce meant that married couples did not necessarily need any reason for filling for a divorce. Simply being unhappy …show more content…
My parents divorced whenever I was three years of age. Of course, I do not remember any of it, but I have faced problems with it my whole life. I have gone through custody battles, I have listened to my parents scream and fight, and I have wished it never happened. Till this day, I still have problems with making both of my parents happy. Both are continuously getting their feelings hurt by the things that I choose to do. If I go see my dad, my mom gets mad at me. If I do not go see my dad, he gets upset with me. If I do not spend a holiday with one or the other, it causes an argument. Having divorced parents has been on the most, if not the most, stressful event in my life. I always wonder what my life would be like if they would have stayed together and worked out their issues instead of giving up and getting a divorce. Would it have been better? Would I have been happier? Would I have turned into a better woman from having a life with both of my parents influence on me? These are questions that will always be in the back of my mind. I have a fear of marriage now. I am scared that I will end up like they were and that is the last thing I would ever want. I have always promised myself that I am not going to put my children through what I had to go through. Even though I do come from a broken home, I am grateful to have the life I do. I was blessed with two amazing stepparents and I am now that I am older, I have a great relationship with both of my parents. The only bad thing is that it took twenty years to get to the point that I am at

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