The Pros And Cons Of Closed Adoption

In 2008 only five percent of adoptions were closed (Working With Birth). Open adoptions are more common than closed adoptions. Adoptions that are open indicate the biological family of the child can stay in contact throughout their lives. A closed adoption means the biological family cannot contact the child, however, the child can try to reach out once they reach the age of 18. My own experiences with adoptions indicate that closed adoptions should remain closed.
Closed adoptions are to remain closed for appropriate reasons. Many families want their new child to be separated from their biological family because of the biological families’ lifestyle. The parents could be abusive, use drugs, be alcoholic, etc. Although closed are meant to remain closed, it does not always work because the child feels they do not fit in. The child feels confused or like they are missing something (Openness in Adoption). Opening a closed adoption reveals a whole new lifestyle that that child was supposed to be ridden of. Even if the biological parents have became clean or have gotten help, they still have temptations and a past to haunt them. In the long run opening an adoption will only hurt the child.
I have two adopted siblings--who share the same biological mother--in which …show more content…
The park was very beautiful and full of life. My siblings were nervous about meeting their biological mother, but as the day went on, I could tell they were warming up to her. One trip to Columbus turned into several. Beth would spend Christmas and Thanksgiving with us. She would spend birthdays with us. We traveled to Columbus to catch up with her. A couple of years had passed with Beth in our lives, and it seemed to be doing extraordinarily well. My siblings were even giving her nicknames such as, “birth-mom” and “birthy”. My siblings were very comfortable with having their biological mother in their lives. They had accepted that they had two