Reflective Essay: Breaking Social Norm

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Breaking The Norms Norms are created by a society. According to Conley, norms is how values tell us to behave; it means if it is something is not appropriate or unnatural and something that we never done before, we refuse instantly. Therefore, breaking social norms was not easy and that is why this paper was turning late because it is not something I would like to do; it is contradict with me because it is kind of embarrassing and I am a shy person. But I tried to collect my guts as much as I can, to do the breaking social norms experiment due my grade, and the experiment of deviance that I decided to is blinking my eye while I am shaking with someone. The process how to do these, first of all, I tried to approach someone and did handshaking, then while I said “hi” and handshake, and then I blinked my right eye. The first place I decided to is my friend's apartment area at Mountain Avenue, Upland while I dropped my friend after lunch. That time was hot afternoon and around the time when school was over, so there was a lot of students passing by and because my friend's apartment is nearby a school. Further, I monitored particular boys who are playing skateboards, it was a group of boys and it was …show more content…
I feel uncomfortable and nervous by doing that and I might be feeling uncomfortable too if someone did that to me. That is why breaking social norms was hard for me, because of these deviance or the fact or state of departing from usual brought me better perspective to others. Society believe that blinking eye and handshake random person are not socially acceptable. Usually, to greet a stranger is only by smiling. If the people could have conversation, and then they said “hi” then they could introduce their name, and that is totally acceptable. When I did my experiment, in contrast, I was not smiling; on the other hand, I was serious like psycho path who tried to seduce

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