The characteristics associated with this ideology can be seen when the noble man pursues the lady. First, he not only wants to be with her as lover, but also wants to take her as his only wife. The poem describes the noble man first develops feeling for the lady due to her virtuousness and modesty. As his feeling grows stronger, his desire for her intensifies. At last, he finally marries her to achieve ideal marriage. The responsible love and ideal marriage describe in the poem represent the values and morality cherished and approved in the Confucian society, in contrast to the short-lived infatuation that is disdained by Confucian morality. Secondly, the poem is about both men and women using the reference of "noble man" and "Lady", indicating that the union of the two is associated with the virtues. In traditional Chinese, “君子” noble man reflects both social status and virtue, and "淑女” lady, refers to both physical beauty and virtuous and righteousness. Therefore, the union of “君子” and "淑女” represents a combination of all these good qualities and thus results in an ideal marriage. Again, due to the implicit and euphemistic expression of feeling and emotional turmoil in traditional Chinese culture, the lovers never really confront their feeling directly to each other. From here, we can observe that love is restrained by the Confucian
The characteristics associated with this ideology can be seen when the noble man pursues the lady. First, he not only wants to be with her as lover, but also wants to take her as his only wife. The poem describes the noble man first develops feeling for the lady due to her virtuousness and modesty. As his feeling grows stronger, his desire for her intensifies. At last, he finally marries her to achieve ideal marriage. The responsible love and ideal marriage describe in the poem represent the values and morality cherished and approved in the Confucian society, in contrast to the short-lived infatuation that is disdained by Confucian morality. Secondly, the poem is about both men and women using the reference of "noble man" and "Lady", indicating that the union of the two is associated with the virtues. In traditional Chinese, “君子” noble man reflects both social status and virtue, and "淑女” lady, refers to both physical beauty and virtuous and righteousness. Therefore, the union of “君子” and "淑女” represents a combination of all these good qualities and thus results in an ideal marriage. Again, due to the implicit and euphemistic expression of feeling and emotional turmoil in traditional Chinese culture, the lovers never really confront their feeling directly to each other. From here, we can observe that love is restrained by the Confucian