The Negative Effects Of Long Distance Relationships

People who decide to join the long distance relationship is normally determined and self-confident. In the very beginning, when these young couples make the decision of bearing the physical distance in order to get a better education or better job, they have to be determined. They have to be confident about both their relationship and themselves. In addition, people in long distance relationship are most likely to be tolerant and organized. Physical distance can be very hard because people can never feel the same with each other: they cannot hold hands for months or even years. There is a little poem about how people feel about their long distance relationship:
Every night before I fall sleep, I close my eyes and picture you lying next to me, …show more content…
The top one is the social loneliness caused by the relationship. Young couples who are apart will feel lonely, not only from the feelings that their loved ones are not beside them, but also from the barriers between their friends and family. “When I think about him being so far away, I feel I cannot be cheered up,” a friend of mine, Vicky, once said, “I cried almost every night secretly. I just cannot stand all these loneliness, especially when I think of all the happiness we used to have when we are close to each other.” Her boyfriend is a solider, and to follow him up, she picked a school near him and transfer very soon. People in long distance relationship tend to be less active in other social networking. They spend much more time in talking with each other and it seems the relationship is dragging them out of common social activities. I used to be one of those people. All I can think about is how I can spend all my spare time with him. He loves video games, so I learned how to play the games; his class ended at 4, so I do not take part in the activities after 4. I tried to finish my work early so that I can have more time for …show more content…
The stresses long distance relationship cause are in different aspects. They are uncertain of what others are doing because of the distance, and it make them very afraid of breaking up. “I am glad he can get lots of friends who can take care of him, but I am afraid they are too nice that he will forget about me.” I read the sentences years ago on line from a girl who wrote about her relationship, and I can feel her stress and depress of how the distance build the barrier between them. The stresses are also coming from the eager of being together. In the research of Maguire and Kinney, college students, especially female students, are facing a stress in communication, and relationship satisfactory (28). They points out that the communication skill of these students in long distance relationship are better than normal student because they tend to express in a better way and listen in a better way. However, they are stressful about the communication with male students: some of them will avoid communication with male while others tries to hide their relationship with male friends from their long distance