Stereotypes In Marriage

Most people strive to be joined to another at some point in their life. Sometimes it is a blessing, other times it seems like a mistake. When we talk about marriage it has a different meaning to people of all walks of life. Men and women have been known to hold their selves pure waiting for that perfect mate. I can remember when I was a child it was improbable for a man and a woman to live together without being married. I can remember watching television and the married couple slept in twin beds side by side; both were also fully clothed in pajamas. Back then men were respectful of women and they showed a high honor to them. I can remember my mother teaching me how to be a gentleman. It was proper for a male to give up his seat for …show more content…
Whether you watch television, movies, listen to music, or eve play a video game; women or demoralized through how they are treated or portrayed. Movies and television portray women in a way that they are sexual objects for men. Back to the television of my childhood, you didn’t have any naked scenes and in most cases that included men not taking their shirts off. Take the time and think back to the Walton’s, Little House on the Prairie, or even more recent The Cosby Show. I do not remember those shows showing anybody in a naked setting. We have allowed our society to dictate what we as families watch. It is now common practice to see the whole backside of a man in prime time television and it does not cause one bit of concern. Movies are no different; Bill Cosby in his book Love and Marriage talks about seeing Jane Russell in a movie and how she was no PG-13, and how her blouse was a wake up call for his Hormones. We men have a bad habit of letting our eyes wander. Over the course of my life I have heard it mentioned a time or two, “just because you are on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t look at the menu”. I am telling you it is wrong to do so. Scripture tells us in the book of Job 31:9-10 that looking at a woman in lust and lurking about is reason enough for your wife to grind another mans grain and allow men to lay down over her. Jesus goes on to tell us in Matthew that if a man looks upon a woman with …show more content…
In a book by Willard F. Harley Jr. His Needs Her Needs, he talks about relationships as if they were bank accounts. Where you deposit your money (time) is where your heart will be. Women love to talk, and men love to listen, but seem to go deaf when the ring is put on their finger and the I Do is said. We are dating we listen to our girlfriends; we want to know everything about them. Once the wedding ceremony is over we no longer listen and when we do listen we are trying to fix the problem our wife is sharing, when all she wants you to do is listen. Our communication breaks down and since we are not developing that communication skill it causes stress in the marriage. The next thing you know you are at work talking with co-workers, or maybe it is even at church. You start confiding in a friend (most usually of the opposite sex) about your marriage issues. Now you are depositing into the relationship bank instead of the one at home with your wife. Your time spent talking with your wife becomes about arguing over money, bills and other issues. When you argue that is taking money out of that relationship account. Our marriages are becoming bankrupt in the relationship account. We need to learn how to talk with our wives, just like we did when we dated. She needs to hear your voice, and she also needs to see your face when she is talking to you. There are several issues that Willard discusses