Synthesis Essay On Parents

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When I was a young child, growing up was different from most kids around me, I definitely didn’t have it easy, but then again no one does. Being the first child confused my parents, they didn’t know what they should or shouldn’t let me do. This influenced my parents to not let me have as much freedom as most kids around me. Decisions were always made by your parents, the way you grow up is mostly defined by your parents. Will they overprotect the first child and spoil the second? Will they force you to play an instrument and not let you attend a sleepover (source 1). These are all questions parents will consider as their child grows up. “Parenting is tough work,” (source 4) (not that I know what it’s like) the way you go about parenting can …show more content…
Nobody wants to be known as that family. The real question then, is if you’re raising the child just to look sophisticated and not be that family in the community or because you want them to succeed and strive for greatness. Although looking good within the community is a good thing, the real reason parents should develope their child to succeed is because they care. Children can sense the vibes parents are giving off and if they know they’re only doing it to look good it can have a psychological effect on them. They may end up in a with a psychiatrist talking about their daddy/mommy issues. Feeling “a sense of emptiness or lack of purpose”(source 5) all because you decided to raise you children up to look well in the community. On the other hand, when you raise a child up because you care, they feel a greater connection with you and there are some benefits that come from raising them up in this way. They will be proud to be your son/daughter. In my case I’m proud to be son of my parents, because they’re always encouraging me to do things I might think I’m incapable to do. They aren’t raising me up in this way to compare me with my cousins (although they sometimes do and I see the gleam in their eyes, talking about how proud they are of me), they aren’t always there for me, which I believe is a good thing. Without them there, I learn how to be independent and deal with problems on my …show more content…
Being lenient can be a good thing but letting them blow off their homework to go play at the park with their friends is unacceptable. They are throwing their life away believing that it’s acceptable to not do homework. If they don’t do their homework, when the test comes around they won’t know what the test is even on. If parents are too lenient they will get away with anything they want because they won’t stop until they get what they need. If parents are strict and make their child a hard worker in something peculiar, like sports, when they’re good at it they’ll enjoy it even more. But everyone wants to have a well-rounded kid, but to achieve that, parents need to show and let their child experience “discomfort, failure, and struggle,”(Source 5) but use that as motivation. As parents, they need to motivate their child and not criticize their child for getting three out of one-hundred wrong or because they “didn’t hustle back to [their] position on defense.” (Source 7) Because every time they reflect on this they’ll believe they aren’t good enough, focusing on the three wrong, instead of the ninety-seven right. They’ll drag themselves down for the three wrong or because they didn’t get back fast enough. As a lenient parent, you won’t help them

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