Reflective Essay: The Use Of Silence In Counseling

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I was so depressed and drank all the time. I did not know what to do with myself. Medication was not working and the kids were on vacation with their dad and his new pole slinging bi$%^. I was full of bitterness, anger, resentment, depression and alcohol. I decided that cutting my wrist would be the smart thing to do. Not so much. That stupidity landed me in Green Oaks. Oh my, what have I done now?! I was there around twenty-four hours and they realized I did not belong there either. After all that had gone down I decided to get back into my Christian counselor. I started working with her once a week. Then the kids and I decided to complete our remodel of the house which led to hiring a painter to paint the outside of the house …show more content…
I know that I need to further my education to do so. I need to learn new skills and how to tweak what I feel I know. Take for instance, my honesty. I do think I know how to be honest and try not to hurt others in doing so, but feel I can also learn better ways to allow this. I feel another area that will be very important but difficult for me to learn is, The Use of Silence. (Interviewing for Solutions, pages 33-34) I want to jump in and start helping by making suggestions. I need to learn to compose questions. (Interviewing for Solutions, pages 24-25) I find it difficult to be getting details while my mind is spinning with tons of questions and the big no-no of, “why?” I do have fears of guiding people in the wrong direction, but feel this is important to bring in the, “client is the expert.” (Interviewing for Solutions, pages 18-19)
I am hoping with furthering my education I will find the job and the field I love and want to work. So far, I am thinking in the direction of helping teenagers. I will admit, I was not the best teen, I had dealt with divorced parents, hated school, addictions, emotional and mental illnesses, and it helps that I have teenagers. I am too soft hearted to deal with younger children or senior citizens, but feel if I could deal with teens or I may possibly deal with young to middle age adults. I hope in the end, I find what I want to be when I grow

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