Eva Adzema
Period 7
Ms.Snell
English 9a Why being too involved in your children's lives could be hurting them
The parenting that you either see being given, are given, or give your children may be causing more damage than helping out your kids. An article written by Alex Frew McMillan tells you why being an overly intrusive parent may damage your children. Professor Ng, an assistant professor in the Department of Educational Psychology, compiled her research in two studies, one conducted in the laboratory in Hong Kong and the US and another by interviewing mothers in China and the US by phone for 12 consecutive days. In the lab research, she and her team give the children, aged 8 or 9, a test.(The Dark Side of Overly Intrusive Parenting: …show more content…
High unreachable expectations can push kids to unsafe limits where its school school school and they believe they will never be good enough. For the experiment the kids and parents were left in a room with each other for 5 minutes. “We observed immediately that the parents who were over-invested became mean to their kids right away," Professor Ng says. They frowned, refused to look at their children or made comments such as "That was really bad." One mother even went so far as to say her child had "failed", even though the researchers set no such threshold.”(The Dark Side of Overly Intrusive Parenting: Parents who are too involved in their children’s lives end up harming their offspring/Alex Frew McMillan). These horrible comments made to their children the parents see as “normal” and just encouraging them to better. But I think many people can say that is just cruel. The research team first assessed the level of parental involvement, with over-involved parents more likely to say that they agreed with statements such as "When my daughter fails I feel bad about myself.". They found that when parents react negatively it affects their child's performance in school. A repetitive negativity in their learning environment or their home can lead them to be negative about everything even things not having to do with school. They see everything …show more content…
I feel that I am pretty motivated when it comes to school because I know I have a career in head of me. When my parents remind me constantly that I need to get my grades up (even if they are already a’s or b’s) I get frustrated. I feel like by them just pushing me even more I am less motivated. If I am left alone to do my own things I feel like I would be less stressed and more independent. When we go to college and our parents aren’t there constantly reminding us about grades and assignments, I think this could hurt us academically and may lead to social problems. For Juliet it is hard for her to make her own decisions because her dad is always making them for her, so often that she's not her own person. She is never given the chance to decide what she wants to do with her life and who she wants be. Juliet grows through the book though. She is able to stand up to her father and tell him what she wants and says there is nothing that will change it. “ I pray you, tell my lord and father, madam.I will not marry yet. And when I do, I swear. It shall be Romeo, whom I know you hate,Rather than Paris. These are news indeed!(Shakespeare 3. 5. 120) My translation of this is I beg you to tell my father that I don't want to marry now. When I will marry I will may Romeo, whether you like it or not. These are news that you need to accept. I know you like Paris but I don’t. Juliet is very brave in this situation. In her
Period 7
Ms.Snell
English 9a Why being too involved in your children's lives could be hurting them
The parenting that you either see being given, are given, or give your children may be causing more damage than helping out your kids. An article written by Alex Frew McMillan tells you why being an overly intrusive parent may damage your children. Professor Ng, an assistant professor in the Department of Educational Psychology, compiled her research in two studies, one conducted in the laboratory in Hong Kong and the US and another by interviewing mothers in China and the US by phone for 12 consecutive days. In the lab research, she and her team give the children, aged 8 or 9, a test.(The Dark Side of Overly Intrusive Parenting: …show more content…
High unreachable expectations can push kids to unsafe limits where its school school school and they believe they will never be good enough. For the experiment the kids and parents were left in a room with each other for 5 minutes. “We observed immediately that the parents who were over-invested became mean to their kids right away," Professor Ng says. They frowned, refused to look at their children or made comments such as "That was really bad." One mother even went so far as to say her child had "failed", even though the researchers set no such threshold.”(The Dark Side of Overly Intrusive Parenting: Parents who are too involved in their children’s lives end up harming their offspring/Alex Frew McMillan). These horrible comments made to their children the parents see as “normal” and just encouraging them to better. But I think many people can say that is just cruel. The research team first assessed the level of parental involvement, with over-involved parents more likely to say that they agreed with statements such as "When my daughter fails I feel bad about myself.". They found that when parents react negatively it affects their child's performance in school. A repetitive negativity in their learning environment or their home can lead them to be negative about everything even things not having to do with school. They see everything …show more content…
I feel that I am pretty motivated when it comes to school because I know I have a career in head of me. When my parents remind me constantly that I need to get my grades up (even if they are already a’s or b’s) I get frustrated. I feel like by them just pushing me even more I am less motivated. If I am left alone to do my own things I feel like I would be less stressed and more independent. When we go to college and our parents aren’t there constantly reminding us about grades and assignments, I think this could hurt us academically and may lead to social problems. For Juliet it is hard for her to make her own decisions because her dad is always making them for her, so often that she's not her own person. She is never given the chance to decide what she wants to do with her life and who she wants be. Juliet grows through the book though. She is able to stand up to her father and tell him what she wants and says there is nothing that will change it. “ I pray you, tell my lord and father, madam.I will not marry yet. And when I do, I swear. It shall be Romeo, whom I know you hate,Rather than Paris. These are news indeed!(Shakespeare 3. 5. 120) My translation of this is I beg you to tell my father that I don't want to marry now. When I will marry I will may Romeo, whether you like it or not. These are news that you need to accept. I know you like Paris but I don’t. Juliet is very brave in this situation. In her