Growing Up Without A Father

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I grew up without a father, or any father figure for that matter. My mother never dated and never brought home strange men. My mother devoted all of her time to my brother, Ryley, and I. Mom also planned out our weekends, making sure that they were packed full of activities. One weekend she decided to drive me and my brother all the way down to Georgia so we could explore uncharted territory and make some exciting memories together. When we were at home we always came together as a family and had our dinners at the kitchen table so we could discuss the events in our days. My mom has always been a great mom and best of all she was mine, or at least I thought so until she received a message through Facebook from William Stallings. I was eight …show more content…
I was going to inform you that William will be coming down for the weekend.”
Fear and anger burned deep in my heart. It burned so badly that I swear I could almost feel the flames crawling up the back of my throat. Still, I continued to sit quietly, although my mind was racing. Upon meeting Will, I was extremely skeptical. I did not want someone new in my life and I did not want to have to divide up the time with my mom or share her attention. Things were fine the way they were. I know I was being selfish, but you are allowed to when it comes to your family. Will was, and is, a clean-shaven gentleman and is a little on the short side. He was dressed in a plain white t-shirt and some jeans, but most of all he was extremely quiet. If I were to guess why he was so quiet now, I would imagine he was just as nervous about meeting us as we were about meeting him. He does have two children, Sean and Case, both of which are a spitting image of Will. At least Ryley and I are not completely left out when he came to visit, now we had them to hang out with. Of course when I met Will I did not warm up to him right away, it took me months and months, but I was never rude to him. There was something different about him, he is one of those very few people in the world that when you talk to them they actually listen, he does not just wait for his turn to talk. Each time he came around it would get easier and easier because I was beginning to
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I would remind her that sometimes in life if you care enough about someone you should want what is going to make them happy, even if that means putting your own feelings aside. Will makes my mom happy and I sometimes sit back to watch them talk. It does not have to be about anything important, they just make love look so effortless. I have never seen the physical representation of love before Will started to come around. I cannot help but notice the way my mom’s face lights up when he speaks, even if he is speaking about where to go for dinner, I swear she looks like she is back in college again, so young and full of life. My parents are now approaching their third year of marriage. The man that I was so quick to deny, is now my dad. Will has been the best thing that has happened to me by far. I have no fear of asking him for advice; He encourages me to try new and exciting things, and pushes me to do great things. He is the closest thing to a father that I will ever get and he is all

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