The Importance Of Loss Of A Child

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Loss is never an easy thing to cope with, to recover from or to easily discuss. When a parent loses a child, it’s the kind of hurt that runs deep. A hurt that can never be forgotten because it has permeated the mind of that parent, family and community. For example, when my brother was 21, he lost his battle with sickle cell. This happened in Nigeria in the early 90’s where there was no adequate access to quality healthcare. It just so happened that he was away in college, at a rural area, at the time when he began to experience one of his episodes. With no easy access to phones, there was no way for his roommate to contact my parents on time. By the time he was rushed to the hospital, it was too late. The news of my brother’s death came as …show more content…
When I lost my father six years ago, to a ghastly motor accident, I was in shock. I was heartbroken because I hadn’t seen him in such a long time. The last time I saw my dad was when my mom and I left Nigeria to the United States to be with my sister and her family. My dad decided to stay back with my other siblings while mom and I went to the US. Mom would go back to visit, while I stayed here focusing on school etc. I kept promising my dad that I would come visit, but I never did. One day, we received a call from Nigeria informing us that my father had been in a terrible car accident. This was a week after I had made another promise to him, that I would soon be coming to visit him. The news of his passing scarred me as if I had been bathed with scalding hot water. I couldn’t contain myself, I wept. I had to take of work for almost a week because I would cry non-stop. My mom wasn’t any better. The news hurt her also, but I felt she was better off because at least she got to see him before I did. The loss of my father literally changed my life. I even took a break from school because I could not focus. My other siblings were hurt but they could simply get over it because they got to see him in his final days, and they also believed he had lived a good life, as he was seventy-six years old at the time. I …show more content…
Having to bury a spouse/partner has got to be one of those heartbreaking experiences especially when the relationship had been a very long one. The surviving spouse would always have that special feeling of pain that the parents and family of the deceased spouse might not comprehend. This traumatic event can cause a very big interruption in the daily life of the surviving spouse, especially when they had always done things together. The resources here could come from family, counseling, joining groups that attend to loss and grief, and other additional resources that may help with coping. There are many groups/pages on Facebook that can be of help to someone who has lost a spouse. In groups like this, members can share experiences, both positive and negative, which may bring comfort to those

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