The B in the abc-x model, is the family’s resource/strength. In my family’s case, we coped by reaching out to our church, our extended family, our friends and our community. my mother in particular was encouraged by my father to join a women’s group in church, which focused on grief and loss. That helped a lot because it helped my mom meet and socialize with other women who had gone through somewhat similar or if not the same plight as her. Today, many parents go through the same event of losing their child. In addition to some resources they may already have, social media resources may also contribute to their recovery or coping mechanism. For instance, I find that Facebook is one social media outlet to find groups that deal with loss, grief and losing a child, specifically. Finally, the c in the abc-x model refers to the family’s perception of the stressful event. My family at the time, saw the event as life being unfair, and we just couldn’t understand why our beloved brother could be taken away from us so soon. My mother saw it as punishment for allowing her son to be so far away from her knowing he would sometimes have sickly episodes. She allowed this guilt shape her perception of death of her son as punishment for not being there for her son. Although, this isn’t true, but in my mother’s mind, this was her cross to bear, as she would put it. “In general “off time” (e.g., a child dies before a parent dies) and unexpected (a family member dies in an accident) transitions create periods of greater stress. This greater stress could, at least partially, be attributed to the family members’ perception of the stressful situation as being overwhelming or unfair” (Price, Price, & McKenry, 2009, p.
The B in the abc-x model, is the family’s resource/strength. In my family’s case, we coped by reaching out to our church, our extended family, our friends and our community. my mother in particular was encouraged by my father to join a women’s group in church, which focused on grief and loss. That helped a lot because it helped my mom meet and socialize with other women who had gone through somewhat similar or if not the same plight as her. Today, many parents go through the same event of losing their child. In addition to some resources they may already have, social media resources may also contribute to their recovery or coping mechanism. For instance, I find that Facebook is one social media outlet to find groups that deal with loss, grief and losing a child, specifically. Finally, the c in the abc-x model refers to the family’s perception of the stressful event. My family at the time, saw the event as life being unfair, and we just couldn’t understand why our beloved brother could be taken away from us so soon. My mother saw it as punishment for allowing her son to be so far away from her knowing he would sometimes have sickly episodes. She allowed this guilt shape her perception of death of her son as punishment for not being there for her son. Although, this isn’t true, but in my mother’s mind, this was her cross to bear, as she would put it. “In general “off time” (e.g., a child dies before a parent dies) and unexpected (a family member dies in an accident) transitions create periods of greater stress. This greater stress could, at least partially, be attributed to the family members’ perception of the stressful situation as being overwhelming or unfair” (Price, Price, & McKenry, 2009, p.