People who spend most of their time alone and little time around others are considered antisocial. The term, antisocial shouldn’t take the place of solitude, which appropriately defines loneliness. Choosing to spend time alone doesn’t necessarily make someone unsociable. In fact, there are many reasons why we as individuals would choose to spend time to ourselves. I call it “me” time. Alone time is a normal part of life. I enjoy living life as a loner since it gives me peace, privacy, and most importantly, independence. Nevertheless, I enjoy the company of others but I absolutely value time to myself. A moment of solitude provides us with the opportunity to perform as we please and discover our individuality without revealing ourselves publicly,
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I never enjoyed the negative judgment that I would receive from others. My self-esteem dropped and I no longer felt comfortable in a social environment. I felt like a loser and that no one would accept me for who I was. People had a way of treating me as if I was nobody. The best way I could feel better was by isolating myself and staying away from others as much as possible. Subsequently, I changed into a less talkative person. At this point in my life, I am mostly a hushed person, who speaks very little or at least when spoken to. I am not a fan of talking much to consider that I can barely hold a conversation. The only time I can hold a conversation is over the phone. I talk more on the phone than I do in person. Most times, I try to hide my shyness to act as if I am not shy. My shyness is obvious for some and for others not so much. By living with social anxiety, going somewhere social is a challenge for me. My shyness is what hinders me from going to social events. Even though I am nervous about going somewhere social, I force myself to do what I need to do. My conscience tells me “Come on! You can do it!” If it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t feel the motivation to go anywhere social. I also knew that as I grow up, that I would need to break out of that shell, which is what most people told …show more content…
I had been in that position when I went to a birthday party that my friend Christina invited me to in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. I was fifteen at the time and I was dropped off by my dad. When I came near the gate entrance, I was in my typical panic mode, feeling all queasy and nervous inside. As I was approaching the gate, Christina called out to me. “Hey Alexus! Thanks for coming to my party.” I smiled and handed her the birthday gift. “Thanks!” exclaimed Christina. After we greeted each other, we went in her backyard, where the people sat and the DJ played. Christina led me towards the area where I could choose to sit and then went back up towards the front. While she was gone, I was sitting in a chair that was in the far-left corner of the table away from the other people. The whole time I was staring at my phone, looking at YouTube videos and texting, which helped calm my anxiety and avoid making eye contact. A man walks towards the table and greeted me and asked if I was okay with sitting by myself. I responded with a nervous yes. “She’s shy” said a girl name Stacey, one of Christina’s friends. Then the man told me that I don’t need to feel shy around them. Christina then returns in the back and sits next to me. We were talking for a little while until it was time for everyone to sing her birthday song and eat. After that, we all was in the backyard enjoying the music and each other. When it was over, I told Christina that I had a great time.
I never enjoyed the negative judgment that I would receive from others. My self-esteem dropped and I no longer felt comfortable in a social environment. I felt like a loser and that no one would accept me for who I was. People had a way of treating me as if I was nobody. The best way I could feel better was by isolating myself and staying away from others as much as possible. Subsequently, I changed into a less talkative person. At this point in my life, I am mostly a hushed person, who speaks very little or at least when spoken to. I am not a fan of talking much to consider that I can barely hold a conversation. The only time I can hold a conversation is over the phone. I talk more on the phone than I do in person. Most times, I try to hide my shyness to act as if I am not shy. My shyness is obvious for some and for others not so much. By living with social anxiety, going somewhere social is a challenge for me. My shyness is what hinders me from going to social events. Even though I am nervous about going somewhere social, I force myself to do what I need to do. My conscience tells me “Come on! You can do it!” If it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t feel the motivation to go anywhere social. I also knew that as I grow up, that I would need to break out of that shell, which is what most people told …show more content…
I had been in that position when I went to a birthday party that my friend Christina invited me to in Rocky Mount, North Carolina. I was fifteen at the time and I was dropped off by my dad. When I came near the gate entrance, I was in my typical panic mode, feeling all queasy and nervous inside. As I was approaching the gate, Christina called out to me. “Hey Alexus! Thanks for coming to my party.” I smiled and handed her the birthday gift. “Thanks!” exclaimed Christina. After we greeted each other, we went in her backyard, where the people sat and the DJ played. Christina led me towards the area where I could choose to sit and then went back up towards the front. While she was gone, I was sitting in a chair that was in the far-left corner of the table away from the other people. The whole time I was staring at my phone, looking at YouTube videos and texting, which helped calm my anxiety and avoid making eye contact. A man walks towards the table and greeted me and asked if I was okay with sitting by myself. I responded with a nervous yes. “She’s shy” said a girl name Stacey, one of Christina’s friends. Then the man told me that I don’t need to feel shy around them. Christina then returns in the back and sits next to me. We were talking for a little while until it was time for everyone to sing her birthday song and eat. After that, we all was in the backyard enjoying the music and each other. When it was over, I told Christina that I had a great time.