1. “When you try to control the other person, you might insist on details, shut down communication, or simply say, “No way I’m going to do that.” Instead, say, “We can solve this problem. I’ll listen to you; I ask you to listen to me.” “Let’s generate several possibilities.” (pg. 25)
2. I currently try to problem solve with people but when I try to help it comes out in more of a controlling way. An example is with my best friend Megan she has a friend that is a really bad influence and Megan is trying to get her out of her life. But she keeps letting her in and then she comes to me and tells me that she isn’t happy with that friends. My reaction is to tell her to dump that friend and never speak to her again instead of trying to help her through …show more content…
“We are connected human beings who must balance out need for personal autonomy with our need for interdependence. We can no longer live by the myth that somewhere out there is a place where we can be completely independent and do what we wish.” (pg. 35)
2. I want to be independent in my life because I feel that I’m a grown up and should be able to live on my own. But I’m finding that I can’t afford to live by myself right after college because I don’t have a steady job to rely on. I have much resentment towards my parents because I don’t want to move home after I graduate I want to go live on my own with my best friend. But thinking about the situation I would be in its not very smart to move in with a friend because I don’t have to job to support it. The result is that I’m resenting my parents for not being able to move into my own place.
3. I would start with think about all the options that I have after I graduate, and from there looking at how each option would better benefit me. After thinking about those options I see that moving out on my own wouldn’t be the smartest idea because I might have the money now but down the road I won’t have enough or anything saved up. I need my parents because they can help me save money so that I will eventually be able to live with a friend. But also thinking about how in today’s society it’s hard to live somewhere by yourself, you almost all the time need someone to live with to cut cost. As people we aren’t very independent as we think because we need others to help us make everything
2. I currently try to problem solve with people but when I try to help it comes out in more of a controlling way. An example is with my best friend Megan she has a friend that is a really bad influence and Megan is trying to get her out of her life. But she keeps letting her in and then she comes to me and tells me that she isn’t happy with that friends. My reaction is to tell her to dump that friend and never speak to her again instead of trying to help her through …show more content…
“We are connected human beings who must balance out need for personal autonomy with our need for interdependence. We can no longer live by the myth that somewhere out there is a place where we can be completely independent and do what we wish.” (pg. 35)
2. I want to be independent in my life because I feel that I’m a grown up and should be able to live on my own. But I’m finding that I can’t afford to live by myself right after college because I don’t have a steady job to rely on. I have much resentment towards my parents because I don’t want to move home after I graduate I want to go live on my own with my best friend. But thinking about the situation I would be in its not very smart to move in with a friend because I don’t have to job to support it. The result is that I’m resenting my parents for not being able to move into my own place.
3. I would start with think about all the options that I have after I graduate, and from there looking at how each option would better benefit me. After thinking about those options I see that moving out on my own wouldn’t be the smartest idea because I might have the money now but down the road I won’t have enough or anything saved up. I need my parents because they can help me save money so that I will eventually be able to live with a friend. But also thinking about how in today’s society it’s hard to live somewhere by yourself, you almost all the time need someone to live with to cut cost. As people we aren’t very independent as we think because we need others to help us make everything