The Importance Of Gender Relationships

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Register to read the introduction… Though this has been viewed negatively by some and positively by others, the fact remains that many women have traded in their traditional roles for careers. However, this transformation has also lead to changes in the relationships between men and women. In Coping with Changing Roles for Young Men and Women, author Jessica Hanan states, “People now have more freedom to make choices for themselves and how they want to live their lives. Sometimes these choices can be confusing” (5). This quote could be taken as an understatement. As women have emerged into male-dominated parts of society, they have pushed men out. Now there are no real rules to dating as the ideas of old fashioned courtship have long been forgotten. As discussed later in the paper, even the idea of dating has lost its place on college campuses as students lean toward the idea of “hooking up,” instead of going out on dates. These changes are affecting men and women today and there are three approaches which address the topic of gender roles and relationships: the educated approach, the traditional religious application approach, and modern advice and analysis approach. Groups of writers within the approaches take various facts, observations, and personal beliefs in order to examine this complicated …show more content…
What the modern approach looks at is why. They ask what has changed to make the roles so new and undefined. Unlike the other two approaches, these individuals lean on their own observations for evidence. As they question what this means for society they give critical advice for confused people. Looking into the differences of men and women is a large part of this approach. Robin Bowman claims in her book Escaping the Venus Trap, “There seems to be conspiracy to maintain a sharp division between men and women” (121). What's more, in Just Like a Woman, Dianne Hales sees not a difference in basic emotional qualities, but the expression of those qualities, “Emotions know no gender” however, “women reported more intense emotional experiences” (261-262). Taking these findings into consideration the misunderstanding between men and women resulting from the sex role changes is explained. One example follows: “An argument that seemed nothing more than a fleeting squall to a husband may echo like thunder through a woman’s psyche” (Hales, 268). On a college campus the confusion may look something like this. A boy wants to ask out a nice girl, but should he. He doesn’t want to imply that she is in need of being asked out. A girl wants to be asked out by a nice boy, but he never comes up to her. She wonders why. One college student, William DeMartine, comments, “You can’t even try to meet girls, because when you try to meet them they’ve already put you in your place” (qtd. in Williams). With the changing of traditional roles in dating, this reaction is common among men, and women are feeling unfulfilled as men become more and more passive. This is the central issue concentrated on in the modern advice and analysis

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