Hurt By Friends Online

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No one should be hurt by "friends" online, if we are, how can we call them our friends? In our world today, social media has a large impact; Also, social media is a big part of what makes us who we are. The number of internet platforms continues to grow which gets more people using them; numbers for the media sites are crazy high. We cannot make real friends online. They could not be truthful about who they are, do not get necessary things for a friendship, and we become unsociable with others. Initially, we think having internet friends can be special, however, people can hide behind computers screens; they could be deceiving us about who they really are. Advocates of making friends online say all we should do is meet them online and then …show more content…
Some have argued that we can have companionship with friends online. Nevertheless, studies show if we do not have the bond outside of the computer the friendship will not last; which make them an acquaintance, not a friend. In the magazine article "Making Friends Through the Internet", "While having friends online is a good way to find people with similar interests, friends [behind] a computer screen do not give them a sustaining friendship" (Arthur 27). This quote shows that to keep a friendship going it must be more of a commitment; also, we must be hanging out in the outside world of a computer other the friendship will wither and …show more content…
It is true that people could meet each other on the Internet and could say they are great friends. However, we cannot keep friends on the real world if all we do is message and game with online people behind the computer screen we really do not know. In the newspaper article, "Study: The Internet Helps You Make More Friends, Be More Social", "Pew polled 2,255 Americans... 47% used social media... That's almost twice as many as in 2008" (McMillan 22). This shows that yes more people have started using social media but has nothing to do with friendship they most likely are just acquaintances, Family, people we hang out with the real world before we follow them, or we just like the followers so we follow anyone. Also, in the magazine article, "If having Internet friends comes at the cost of neglecting friends offline..."(Arthur 27). This quote shows that it is not worth a fabulous friendship offline just to have "friends"/Acquaintances/Followers online. Better to have real friends that we can go hang out doing fun stuff together around town than sitting in our bedroom waiting for the people who might not get

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