Family is a powerful relationship between people who are either related or are part of an affiliated kin (Kunz, 2013). Whenever I think about family I see it as a positive thing in my life. It can be from how close of a bond family has or from having someone just be there for you. There are stressors that can impact the family in many ways. A stressor is a psychological or physical strain of certain actions that are acquired from you (Kunz, 2013). It can be from getting a new job, getting fired, having kids, or even not having kids and many more. A family stressor can help the family learn their inner strengths and work together to overcome obstacles. For example, having a new baby can cause the family to stress over how much money they have
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A study found that the way someone feels after divorce can change attitudes later down in life (Canham, Mahmood, Stott, Sixsmith & Rourke, 2014). For example, at the time of the divorce one may feel resentful, hatred, disappointed and other feelings but one can turn that negative energy into something positive. Some of the participants in the study said that they felt overall “happy and free” (Canham et al., pg.597). Some of them even felt independent and can make their own decision without having someone to think along with them or having to sacrifice what you wanted for another person. The strength people gain from this is looking at their situation as a learning experience to not make the same mistake again. Also the stress divorce makes can be bottle up and turn into feelings of “renewal” and “focus on one’s need” or focusing on how to get the children to overcome it (Canham et al., pg.597). Instead of the divorcing feeling they have lost something they feel as if they have gained control in their life. This is a coping mechanism that strengthens the family as whole, even if the family has lost a member because of disagreements. By the wife and husband thinking in that positive way it will transfer to the child. Children will stress less in family matters and focus more on their education or their own …show more content…
In some cases, the external family such the parents of the individuals divorcing, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins are the ones that are there for the divorce couple the most. For example, a mother of the women who just got divorce can be a shoulder to cry on. Mother and daughter relationships strength because daughters who are going through divorce want that comfort of safety and support. The children can go see grandma and grandpa when the divorce process is going on in order to get them away from the conflict. For the men they can get support from their mother and father in what to do when trying to gain legal custody of the children. In my example, my sister was taken away from my mother by her father and was supported by his mother. His mother let him restrict my mother from seeing her own daughter. In away even if it was wrong for her to do that, my sisters father bonded with his mother by doing that action. The external family bonding helps the family gain support to overcome
A study found that the way someone feels after divorce can change attitudes later down in life (Canham, Mahmood, Stott, Sixsmith & Rourke, 2014). For example, at the time of the divorce one may feel resentful, hatred, disappointed and other feelings but one can turn that negative energy into something positive. Some of the participants in the study said that they felt overall “happy and free” (Canham et al., pg.597). Some of them even felt independent and can make their own decision without having someone to think along with them or having to sacrifice what you wanted for another person. The strength people gain from this is looking at their situation as a learning experience to not make the same mistake again. Also the stress divorce makes can be bottle up and turn into feelings of “renewal” and “focus on one’s need” or focusing on how to get the children to overcome it (Canham et al., pg.597). Instead of the divorcing feeling they have lost something they feel as if they have gained control in their life. This is a coping mechanism that strengthens the family as whole, even if the family has lost a member because of disagreements. By the wife and husband thinking in that positive way it will transfer to the child. Children will stress less in family matters and focus more on their education or their own …show more content…
In some cases, the external family such the parents of the individuals divorcing, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins are the ones that are there for the divorce couple the most. For example, a mother of the women who just got divorce can be a shoulder to cry on. Mother and daughter relationships strength because daughters who are going through divorce want that comfort of safety and support. The children can go see grandma and grandpa when the divorce process is going on in order to get them away from the conflict. For the men they can get support from their mother and father in what to do when trying to gain legal custody of the children. In my example, my sister was taken away from my mother by her father and was supported by his mother. His mother let him restrict my mother from seeing her own daughter. In away even if it was wrong for her to do that, my sisters father bonded with his mother by doing that action. The external family bonding helps the family gain support to overcome