Family Values And Communication Analysis

That is right. When family members have different family values and different definitions of family, there might be some family tensions. We have to apply an other-orientation to family relationships. Effective other-orientation requires a consideration of my parents’ backgrounds: their treatment as children by their parents; their education background and work experiences; and finally, the community and historical era in which they were raised. Then, I can put myself in their situation and imagine what it would have been like to grow up as they did, to work and raise a family (Family Conflict 2015). To remember the past of my mom can help me forgive her for not being considerate enough to me. Just like what St. Augustine said, …show more content…
Active listening can help open up a person who can’t think through or express a problem. As an active listener, I don’t say any of my own thoughts aloud. Instead, by mirroring the speaker’s thoughts, I help him or her get ready to talk: For example, the speaker said: “Am I mad?”, the listener: “You’re very angry.”; the speaker: “Yes, Mother calls me five times a day to complain.”, the listener: “Mom’s complaining every day.” An Active Listener never agrees or disagrees with what the speaker says; instead, as a mirror, the listener reflects back what the speaker is saying (Better Family Communications 2015). At best, this helps the speaker work out some answers and come to some conclusions. Besides, validating refers to the skill involves communicating to others that you have heard their position or opinion. It is not necessary to understand or agree with them, but it is important to recognise and accept their rights to feel and think as they do. It is important to accept that what others say about how they are feeling is true (Mental Illness Fellowship Victoria 2014). If I hope to have an effective communication with my mom the next time, I should use the skills of levelling, active listening, validating and “I” …show more content…
In reality, it is very weird and unreasonable to see that people usually treat their friends better than their family. When there is a problem, people used to talk to their friends patiently and calmly, but when they discuss the problem with their parents, they lose their patient and calm, turning to be emotional and even yell at their parents if disagreement occurs. This is very real and I think it is quite sad to realize this. Maybe we think our family will never abandon us, so we lost our courtesy. Maybe we know our parents will always forgive us, so we lost our patient. The closer the person we face, the less patient we have to them. We usually ignore their feelings when we get angry with them. I think I have insight on this mistake and I am glad that I could realize my fault in time, and now I have already changed my behavior to my parents. Trying not to vent my negative emotions to my mom and to understand her more by asking more of her stories, now I found that there are fewer conflicts between us, compared to the past. All in all, it is normal to disagree with each other in our family from time to time. Occasional conflict is part of family life. However, often the root of conflict is very simple, due to different people with different value and personalities. If we can