Analysis Of For The Worst By Audrey Krisbergh

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A topic that has been controversially for years, can people hit their children? The short answer to that would be yes, they can. But the more important question, should people hit their children? Hitting children is inhuman and wrong, it makes children afraid of their parents and usually leaves young kids confused. Discipline should only be verbal. First off, a parent is a child's main role model from their toddler years all the way up to young adolescents. That's why it's important to exhibit good behavior, even when upset.. In the article “For the Worst”, Audrey Krisbergh, whom has a masters degree in education, said “For most children, the most important role models are their parents and caregivers, who have a regular place in their lives”. …show more content…
So don’t hit a child and expect them to change their behavior! Firstly, if you have a tough kid, they may just shake off the hit and run away to repeat the misbehavior. But, on the other hand if you have a child with a less tough personality it could cause serious emotional trauma. In the video Disciplining children of different ages, Ari Brown, a Pediatrician and author, said “Spanking leads to children's fear and poor self esteem, parents need to build up their children not tear them down”. At school, sports practices, and other places is it likely that the child will find somebody that will bully them, in turn hurting their self esteem. It's the parent's job to build up the child and make them feel good no matter what. Also, physical discipline is proven to lead to more violent actions as adults. Due to the fact that they saw their parents or other influential adults resolve issue with violence, they are more opt to use this tactic when they are older, causing them to possibly end up in jail for years. When a child does wrong it's important to have them understand they are wrong, but you still want the child to trust you. If a parent hurts their child for bad behavior, they will be afraid to come to their parent when they make a mistake that puts them in harm's way. The parent does not need to be their child's best friend, but it's very important that you have a trusting relationship with your child, in order to help keep the child safe in their teenage …show more content…
Whenever somebody is injured or feels pain, they usually remember how the pain was caused and try to avoid repeating the action. Children are the same way. When they steal a cookie for the cookie jar, then in return they get spanked, rather than remember the joy the cookie brought, they will remember the pain from the spanking. This will cause the child to think twice next time they want to take a cookie without asking. But, what if rather than remember the pain was because of them taking the cookie, they just remember the pain was inflicted by their Dad. And from there on out they fear to go to their father for help, worried he may get mad and hit them again. In the article “Discipline Your Child” Steven Dowshen, a doctor and head of pediatric studies at the website kids health, said “Babies and toddlers especially are unlikely to be able to make a connection between their behavior and physical punishment”. Young children can’t connect a mistake they made to their parents hitting them. They will think that they are being hurt for no reason and will believe that it is okay to hurt others for no reason. Also, hitting a child won’t change the child's behavior because pain is a temporary consequence. The pain will go away after a few seconds, leaving the child confused and feeling like they can do with whatever they want

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