Introduction
Arguing with a significant other are an undeniable part of the week or day to day life, occasionally; affecting our behavior and emotions in all areas of our lives. There are lots of reasons why couples argue with each other. It goes from arguing about simple factors to arguing about major incidents which can deeply harm the relationship. Arguments between couple deeply wear down the relationship and become one of the main reasons for separation. The quality of the relationship seems to have effects on the health of its members; harmonious interaction has a protective value and, conversely, a conflicting dynamic with few rewarding exchanges gives rise to discomfort and reduces the attraction we feel for the other. This in turn …show more content…
I will be the client subsequently for the remaining of the article I will be referred to in the first person. I am a thirty-five year old female. Currently, I live with my husband and four children ages 19, 16, 11 and 8 years old. I am currently employed, working 40 hours a week Monday thru Friday and I attend school full-time during the night. For the past three years, my husband and I argue about almost everything. This is a behavior I consider to be out of the norm. Every time I am having a simple conversation with my husband, I end up arguing with him. This is very frustrating, in the end; I feel consume, mad, and, ready to give up. I want to alleviate this behavior because it is affecting our coexistence. I know that couple therapy will be the most appropriate solution, but my spouse don’t consider therapy an ideal option. In the meantime, I want to reduce arguing to the lowest amount possible. Some of the techniques I want to implement to meet my goals with some Self-awareness tactics such as, do not race my voice, do not engage in argument, work on my ego, listening, and give myself 30 minutes. This is the first time I am trying to find a solution to this behavior instead of avoiding or pretending that nothing is …show more content…
I measured face to face arguments, on the phone arguments and text arguments. I used and open times incident log because I recorded whenever the behavior occurred. Before continuing with the data contents, I want to provide a short definition of what arguing with my significant other meant for me. A conversation that shows varied opinions on a particular issue where each one has a specific point of view. This conversation may have a more negative tone where conflicting interests occur between two people, this is precisely the motive for clashes and disappointments between the couple. The behaviors I assessed for this intervention were arguments that left me feeling angry, sad, guilty, hurt, and uncertain. In order to increase reliability and reduce error, I set up an every three-hour alert on my cell-phone, remanding me about any argument occurrence. If an incident happened it was recorded on my cellphone then transfer to my recording log. I was unable to include a second observer which would have increased the reliability of the measurement because it is a personal problem. I kept records of arguments that had a high tone of voice, insults, and
Arguing with a significant other are an undeniable part of the week or day to day life, occasionally; affecting our behavior and emotions in all areas of our lives. There are lots of reasons why couples argue with each other. It goes from arguing about simple factors to arguing about major incidents which can deeply harm the relationship. Arguments between couple deeply wear down the relationship and become one of the main reasons for separation. The quality of the relationship seems to have effects on the health of its members; harmonious interaction has a protective value and, conversely, a conflicting dynamic with few rewarding exchanges gives rise to discomfort and reduces the attraction we feel for the other. This in turn …show more content…
I will be the client subsequently for the remaining of the article I will be referred to in the first person. I am a thirty-five year old female. Currently, I live with my husband and four children ages 19, 16, 11 and 8 years old. I am currently employed, working 40 hours a week Monday thru Friday and I attend school full-time during the night. For the past three years, my husband and I argue about almost everything. This is a behavior I consider to be out of the norm. Every time I am having a simple conversation with my husband, I end up arguing with him. This is very frustrating, in the end; I feel consume, mad, and, ready to give up. I want to alleviate this behavior because it is affecting our coexistence. I know that couple therapy will be the most appropriate solution, but my spouse don’t consider therapy an ideal option. In the meantime, I want to reduce arguing to the lowest amount possible. Some of the techniques I want to implement to meet my goals with some Self-awareness tactics such as, do not race my voice, do not engage in argument, work on my ego, listening, and give myself 30 minutes. This is the first time I am trying to find a solution to this behavior instead of avoiding or pretending that nothing is …show more content…
I measured face to face arguments, on the phone arguments and text arguments. I used and open times incident log because I recorded whenever the behavior occurred. Before continuing with the data contents, I want to provide a short definition of what arguing with my significant other meant for me. A conversation that shows varied opinions on a particular issue where each one has a specific point of view. This conversation may have a more negative tone where conflicting interests occur between two people, this is precisely the motive for clashes and disappointments between the couple. The behaviors I assessed for this intervention were arguments that left me feeling angry, sad, guilty, hurt, and uncertain. In order to increase reliability and reduce error, I set up an every three-hour alert on my cell-phone, remanding me about any argument occurrence. If an incident happened it was recorded on my cellphone then transfer to my recording log. I was unable to include a second observer which would have increased the reliability of the measurement because it is a personal problem. I kept records of arguments that had a high tone of voice, insults, and