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Maybe it sounds selfish, but people really do like to talk about themselves and are pleased when others show interest in their opinions and appearance. Try it and you will see that more often than not people are open to talk if you don’t infringe on a sensitive subject.
Be mindful that certain subjects are sensitive to some, but not for others, especially if you agree with their beliefs. It has long been advised to avoid talking about politics or religion. Now if you agree with their beliefs on these matters that could open a door to make new friends. A common interest can do that sometimes.
5) If you are going to ask questions (and you should) then you must be prepared to listen. Even if you aren’t that interested in the topic, listen anyway. You may learn something and it could be the beginning of a new interest and friend. It’s OK to comment now and then, but for now let them dominate the conversation. Even if you are more knowledgeable about the subject being discussed, refrain from saying too …show more content…
Say too much and you may send the wrong message that you are smarter than them. If they begin to feel inferior, that can hurt your chance of becoming a friend, so LISTEN more than you talk.
6) What do you do when the conversation is over? If you will see them again in class, a club, gym, etc. do nothing. Let the conversation continue the next time you see them. If you think you may never see this person again, then absolutely you must get their contact information. If you’re feeling bold, ask them to join you for coffee, lunch or another activity on a future date. You should learn very quickly if they are interested in pursuing a friendship based on their acceptance or rejection.
When you listen you learn about others likes and dislikes. In time you will develop trust and loyalty if this friendship is meant to last. A truly good and long lasting friendship does take some time. Remember that all friends won’t be best friends or lasting friends, however, the friends you do make and keep will be worth the investment. Others you’ll just have to walk away from. That’ll give you more time to pursue relationships worth keeping.
LESSONS LEARNED IN THIS CHAPTER:
Use a mirror to practice to look friendly and walk with
Be mindful that certain subjects are sensitive to some, but not for others, especially if you agree with their beliefs. It has long been advised to avoid talking about politics or religion. Now if you agree with their beliefs on these matters that could open a door to make new friends. A common interest can do that sometimes.
5) If you are going to ask questions (and you should) then you must be prepared to listen. Even if you aren’t that interested in the topic, listen anyway. You may learn something and it could be the beginning of a new interest and friend. It’s OK to comment now and then, but for now let them dominate the conversation. Even if you are more knowledgeable about the subject being discussed, refrain from saying too …show more content…
Say too much and you may send the wrong message that you are smarter than them. If they begin to feel inferior, that can hurt your chance of becoming a friend, so LISTEN more than you talk.
6) What do you do when the conversation is over? If you will see them again in class, a club, gym, etc. do nothing. Let the conversation continue the next time you see them. If you think you may never see this person again, then absolutely you must get their contact information. If you’re feeling bold, ask them to join you for coffee, lunch or another activity on a future date. You should learn very quickly if they are interested in pursuing a friendship based on their acceptance or rejection.
When you listen you learn about others likes and dislikes. In time you will develop trust and loyalty if this friendship is meant to last. A truly good and long lasting friendship does take some time. Remember that all friends won’t be best friends or lasting friends, however, the friends you do make and keep will be worth the investment. Others you’ll just have to walk away from. That’ll give you more time to pursue relationships worth keeping.
LESSONS LEARNED IN THIS CHAPTER:
Use a mirror to practice to look friendly and walk with