Parenting is hard. Parents know this better than anyone else. When you are a parent, you know that the choices you make impact not only yourself, but at least one other human being. You understand that at best your choices will impact that person in a positive manner for the rest of their life. You will have given them guidance along their way and influenced their choices long after you are dead and gone. As a parent, you also understand that at their worst the consequences are flipped. You know that your choices will stick with that person you raised till the end of their days. Far after you are long gone. Your public image on the face of the earth: what people will remember you for. It rests in the hands of the person you are currently making
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So if you start a sales business at first it might be rocky, but if it’s still running it after a decade then you’re probably know your way around your neck of the woods. You are more experienced in your field and when you are faced with tough choices you can start to react more instinctively and not with your best reckoning. This level of experience also is accompanied with a boost in confidence. You know the ropes and are now more assertive in your decisions. This while normally a benefit to you will end up being a hindrance when rearing a child. Parenting is the “o’l one-two punch” playing out on a subconscious level. You have a baby. He 's cute and adorable and while he matures during the first 10 years of his life you need to make most of his decisions for him. He 's young and defiantly doesn’t know any better. Then comes his teen years. You have already been raising your children for 12 years why should his teen years be any different? After all you now subconsciously feel like a professional in childhood …show more content…
They are (at least in their head) “old enough” to make their own decisions. They make choices that are irrational, with little to no explanation. They might run off with their friends in the middle of the night without any warning. “You could have been hurt and we would have never known!” you say once you catch them returning at 4 am. They acknowledge in hindsight that yes they were wrong, yes there sorry, and yes you were right about the whole thing. That doesn 't stop them from doing it again 2 weeks later. (and those are just the times you know about) They are unstoppable forces of nature as strong willed you ever were maybe more. They will do what they want, regardless of what you do to try and stop them. They feel it is there right. They are “ADULTS now mom GEEZE.” The decisions you make as a parent might sometimes feel ineffective, or just act like a bandage for the larger problem of the teen’s attitude. “Why can’t I just crack open their head and do those things for them?” Why won’t they just make the simple rational choice? Instead they make the ones farthest from it. The answer as to why varies for different parents, but the one that best applies to my child’s situation is oppositional defiance. They actively choose the opposite of what I say and it is just downright nonsensical. When I ask them to prove why they chose those nonsensical stances they have none, or the rationale is so poorly cobbled together
So if you start a sales business at first it might be rocky, but if it’s still running it after a decade then you’re probably know your way around your neck of the woods. You are more experienced in your field and when you are faced with tough choices you can start to react more instinctively and not with your best reckoning. This level of experience also is accompanied with a boost in confidence. You know the ropes and are now more assertive in your decisions. This while normally a benefit to you will end up being a hindrance when rearing a child. Parenting is the “o’l one-two punch” playing out on a subconscious level. You have a baby. He 's cute and adorable and while he matures during the first 10 years of his life you need to make most of his decisions for him. He 's young and defiantly doesn’t know any better. Then comes his teen years. You have already been raising your children for 12 years why should his teen years be any different? After all you now subconsciously feel like a professional in childhood …show more content…
They are (at least in their head) “old enough” to make their own decisions. They make choices that are irrational, with little to no explanation. They might run off with their friends in the middle of the night without any warning. “You could have been hurt and we would have never known!” you say once you catch them returning at 4 am. They acknowledge in hindsight that yes they were wrong, yes there sorry, and yes you were right about the whole thing. That doesn 't stop them from doing it again 2 weeks later. (and those are just the times you know about) They are unstoppable forces of nature as strong willed you ever were maybe more. They will do what they want, regardless of what you do to try and stop them. They feel it is there right. They are “ADULTS now mom GEEZE.” The decisions you make as a parent might sometimes feel ineffective, or just act like a bandage for the larger problem of the teen’s attitude. “Why can’t I just crack open their head and do those things for them?” Why won’t they just make the simple rational choice? Instead they make the ones farthest from it. The answer as to why varies for different parents, but the one that best applies to my child’s situation is oppositional defiance. They actively choose the opposite of what I say and it is just downright nonsensical. When I ask them to prove why they chose those nonsensical stances they have none, or the rationale is so poorly cobbled together