The Importance Of Being A Good Listener

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(A). the only circumstances where I am not a good listener is, if I am completely drained or burnout tiered. It is hard for me to focus on what that person may be sharing with me, there for I do not have enough energy to make them feel like I am listening. I also have a hard time being a good listener if, I am upset about something or have been under a load of stress. Reasons why, if I am upset I am not able to connect with the person whom I am suppose to be listening to, because I am so focused on why I am upset it is hard to comprehend the first time but instead, I end up having them repeat what they have already shared. Therefore, if I am unable to focus on them, or too tiered to give any good energy to the conversation, cannot connect with …show more content…
Yes, I am close to someone who is not a good listener, the way I observe she is not listening is, if I am sharing something with her that is not to her liking I will not receive a response. She will pretend as if I she did not hear me, even if I am sitting right beside her, another way I know she has heard me but not being a good listener is, by her facial expression changes. This makes me very upset and anger, it hinders any conversation at times, it also limits conversation because I know that she will not be a good listener for me if I have something to share I will keep it to myself. The way I would respond to her, would be to say I know you can hear me, or I would say you never listen, usually my responses would be out of frustration. At times, I find a way I would respond to her is, by not being a good listener to her when she wants to share something with …show more content…
in this scenario, the clinician received an call for intake at the mental health center. The call was from a family whose 17-year-old daughter started to hear voices. The clinician’s supervisor approved in home crisis evaluation to determine whether the girl could be sustained at home. The daughter was dressed in a long wool coat, she was fully immersed in a bathtub full of warm water laughing and singing when she arrived to the home. The daughter knew she was coming and invited her in to” see I’m just fine”, she would not get out of the tub so the clinician sat on the closed toilet seat and had to interview her there long enough to get a sense of her needs for protection. That started a relationship that followed her 30- day hospitalization, which continued for two and a half years (pg. 81). In the shoes of the clinician, I would have made sure that when speaking with the family that conveyed my attentiveness to their feelings on the situation, having very understanding facial expressions on topic of their daughter. When meeting the daughter I would smile and humbly introduce my self, and when interviewing her I would be in solar even if I was seating on a toilet seat. When speaking with both family and daughter, while they shared significant information with me that is obviously bothering them or has an affect on them I would ask questions like how does that make you feel? Alternatively, is that a good feeling to have? Or is there something bothering you that you

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