The Importance Of Asking For Help

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Asking for help is something that has always been a difficult task for me. As a social worker in the making, it is always hard for me to understand why individuals in need have a problem with seeking help or support, when I have the same difficulties. I never paid much attention to this, but its an eye opener now that I’m thinking about a time in my life where I needed to ask for help. Some would classify me as being prideful, but I would not identify myself as such, nonetheless very independent. Growing up in a low income household, in an environment that was underprivileged I felt that I had to become independent prematurely. Asking for help was something that was useless, as my family did not have much to give. I survive off of what I had …show more content…
I called these financial establishments with hopes of gaining some great information and hearing that I could be approved for $3,000 for school, not as easy as I thought. I called Capital One bank, and Chase bank, and was given a difficult time. I found the process and plethora of questions to be very oppressive. The persons that were asking the questions tone of voice alone, made me feel underprivileged and powerless. Wong states that sometimes with power the effects that others have on us, unintended by and even unknown to them, may influence us more profoundly and permanently than direct efforts to control our sentiments and behavior. This seemed to have been the case with the represenative that I was speaking with, I’m sure that they didn’t notice that I felt powerless and that they held the power to control the situation. There was a tone that made me feel bad asking for assistance, it seemed as if they knew that they had the power to accept or deny my application. Although I knew that I was asking for assistance, the process made me feel as if I did something wrong for not having the amount of money that was being asked for. I started to become discouraged after being asked, what felt like a million questions and then being denied. I wasn’t expecting to be denied, I didn’t prepare myself for that portion of the journey. I was confident that I would be approved and that, the worst thing that would happen is that …show more content…
They are usually labeled, judged, and even denied, causing them to feel powerless. In the article The Power of Perception: Toward a Model of Cultural Oppression and Liberation, this shown as approaches to persons who oppress. When seeking services, they automatically prepare themselves for the worst. I try to inform these individual that each experience is different and encourage them to not see every experience the same way, its hard for them to understand this. I explain that everyone provides services differently, although it may be a service that they may have applied for before. Most individuals refuse services because the fear of being judged and mistreated. Majority of my service users have been marginalized at some point in their life, causing them to consider themselves is useless, and most of them lack self respect. Hinson, S. & Bradley, A.

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