The Heart Mender shows that forgiveness is not an easy task to complete. It is not as easy to forgive and forget like most would say. Learning to forgive is a great lesson everyone needs.
Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Before forgiveness comes into play someone has to do, or something has to go wrong. It consumes the whole heart and mind. It does not just happen, a lot has to go on in the heart and mind before people are able to forgive anything. Forgiveness takes time, it causes anger, and then it is time to face reality.
“Daddy, why does Helen act so mean?” (Andrews, 118) even in the eyes of Danny who had no understanding of much, he knew there was no need for Helen to be so mad at everybody. Not even really …show more content…
This is usually a battle between the heart and mind that can only be settled by an individual. In the story Helen finally gave up because she realized Josef was not a Nazi, just a German caught up in a bad situation. She decided her happiness was in her own hands and even though the Germans took her husband, Josef made her happy. She did not want to risk her happiness for the rest of her life because of that incident. There is no way Helen was completely over her husband’s death at this point but she had to face reality and decide what was best for her at this point. Facing reality is not fun. Most of the time it is the best choice but it is not the easiest. Reality has a way of showing one that it does not really matter what one wants, if it was meant to be it will …show more content…
“Forgiveness can occur only because we have been given the ability to make choices;” (119). “We begin to forgive by choosing to forgive… by deciding, not by feeling. Our feelings don’t lead us to forgiving. Most times, our feelings lead us the other way. That’s why a person has to decide to forgive first. Our feelings always follow along behind our actions,” (119). In other words, forgiveness is a choice one person has to make on his own. If people let their feelings decide for them, then the choice is not truly theirs. Forgive and forget is never an option really you will never forget what a person has done to him. “I’m sorry” is used so often it means nothing now-a-days; an individual really has to show it. Those two words are weak if not used with actions. As hard as forgiveness is it needs to be done. Not so much for the other person as for yourself. Others do not care that there is a grudge being held on them for something; most do not even realize it. In reality the person holding the grudge are only hurting themselves. Let go of all the pain and sorrow and everything will fall right back into
Forgiveness is probably one of the hardest things to do. Before forgiveness comes into play someone has to do, or something has to go wrong. It consumes the whole heart and mind. It does not just happen, a lot has to go on in the heart and mind before people are able to forgive anything. Forgiveness takes time, it causes anger, and then it is time to face reality.
“Daddy, why does Helen act so mean?” (Andrews, 118) even in the eyes of Danny who had no understanding of much, he knew there was no need for Helen to be so mad at everybody. Not even really …show more content…
This is usually a battle between the heart and mind that can only be settled by an individual. In the story Helen finally gave up because she realized Josef was not a Nazi, just a German caught up in a bad situation. She decided her happiness was in her own hands and even though the Germans took her husband, Josef made her happy. She did not want to risk her happiness for the rest of her life because of that incident. There is no way Helen was completely over her husband’s death at this point but she had to face reality and decide what was best for her at this point. Facing reality is not fun. Most of the time it is the best choice but it is not the easiest. Reality has a way of showing one that it does not really matter what one wants, if it was meant to be it will …show more content…
“Forgiveness can occur only because we have been given the ability to make choices;” (119). “We begin to forgive by choosing to forgive… by deciding, not by feeling. Our feelings don’t lead us to forgiving. Most times, our feelings lead us the other way. That’s why a person has to decide to forgive first. Our feelings always follow along behind our actions,” (119). In other words, forgiveness is a choice one person has to make on his own. If people let their feelings decide for them, then the choice is not truly theirs. Forgive and forget is never an option really you will never forget what a person has done to him. “I’m sorry” is used so often it means nothing now-a-days; an individual really has to show it. Those two words are weak if not used with actions. As hard as forgiveness is it needs to be done. Not so much for the other person as for yourself. Others do not care that there is a grudge being held on them for something; most do not even realize it. In reality the person holding the grudge are only hurting themselves. Let go of all the pain and sorrow and everything will fall right back into