The Guy Code Jos Before Hos Analysis

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Margaret Mead, a leading anthropologist in the 60’s and 70’s emphasizes: “Children must be taught how to think, not what to think”. Both boys and girls are taught what is normal and what is not from a young age by their parents. Children reared with these thoughts, hold this bias into their adulthood which is seen through the characterizations of these stands from the two passages, The Guy Code: Bros Before Hos by Michael Kimmel and Girl by Jamaica Kincaid. These predispositions to what to conform to in order to be accepted is known as the guy and girl codes, with each having their own purpose, as well as a consequence. By acknowledging that these codes are not from nature but from our upbringing we will we be able to see that those who do …show more content…
Boys are taught and expected to not show any feelings such as sadness or compassion. Girls are taught to worry about their appearance by society in order to have them constantly focus on what others are thinking about. While guys are drilled to not have any emotion in the public eye in order for them to not respond to something in need in fear of appearing sensitive. Both genders worry about how they appear in the public eye of their peers. Interestingly enough, boys worry about how they appear on an emotional level, while girls worry how they look on a physical level. Kincaid describes how girls are taught to appear to other men: “This is how to behave in the presence of men who do not know you very well, and this way they won’t recognize immediately the slut I have warned you against becoming” (470). The mother’s warnings in the passage depict the need for constant awareness in public as well as the idea that girls are inherently promiscuous. Mike, a twenty-year-old boy, describes how his dad instilled the guy code into his head: “He was always riding my ass, telling me I had to be tough and strong to make it in this world” (Kimmel 543) Mike learned the guy code and a bias perspective in life through his father’s teachings. In both cases, women and men learn their preconceived notions from their elders when they were children. The purpose of keeping these beliefs going in society could be to protect their children from the insecurities of not being able to conform to society they had faced as a child. Hence the reason on why the guy and girl codes are continuously passed down. The need for approval is seen through the mother’s teaching on smiling: “This is how you smile to someone you do not like too much; this is how you smile to someone you like completely” (Kincaid 470). By teaching the daughter

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