We are Family
You 're sitting down on a couch with your boyfriend and it’s time to eat dinner at his house. His brother is in his room playing video games and the both of you are sitting down watching t.v while dinner is being made by your boyfriend 's father. Where 's mom? She 's working a twelve-hour graveyard shift at the hospital. You have offered to help with preparing dinner but you are not allowed to help, you 're the guest of the house. This is the norm of the family to have visitors not move a pinky to help and so is not eating dinner all together as a family.
Now, imagine you are sitting down on a small Japanese style table with cushions instead of chairs on the floor. Mom is in the kitchen cooking dinner and you as the oldest daughter …show more content…
When I was sitting there with all of my siblings and my cousins she said I stood out. According to my mother being on another island had changed me. She said I acted differently than when I was with my family on Maui. And it wasn’t just the way I acted but the way I dressed and the way I talked. Had my time with a different family culture change me? I don’t know but there was a difference when I came home to be with my family. I was going through my days with my family and following the rules of my boyfriend’s family and expecting my family to understand why I was doing it. They had no room for negotiation and I had to remember my own family’s rules fast because by following someone else’s I was breaking my own family’s …show more content…
My family took pregnancy as a very serious situation and if one of us were to get pregnant we were to stay with that person and eventually get married. If one of us were to get pregnant before marriage I’m not sure what would happen. My grandfather, when he was alive, was very old fashioned and strict about it. We were too scared to get ourselves in the situation of getting pregnant and having to tell him. As for the Bento family it was a little bit different. They were not necessarily okay with getting pregnant and not being married but there wasn’t as much pressure as there was in my
You 're sitting down on a couch with your boyfriend and it’s time to eat dinner at his house. His brother is in his room playing video games and the both of you are sitting down watching t.v while dinner is being made by your boyfriend 's father. Where 's mom? She 's working a twelve-hour graveyard shift at the hospital. You have offered to help with preparing dinner but you are not allowed to help, you 're the guest of the house. This is the norm of the family to have visitors not move a pinky to help and so is not eating dinner all together as a family.
Now, imagine you are sitting down on a small Japanese style table with cushions instead of chairs on the floor. Mom is in the kitchen cooking dinner and you as the oldest daughter …show more content…
When I was sitting there with all of my siblings and my cousins she said I stood out. According to my mother being on another island had changed me. She said I acted differently than when I was with my family on Maui. And it wasn’t just the way I acted but the way I dressed and the way I talked. Had my time with a different family culture change me? I don’t know but there was a difference when I came home to be with my family. I was going through my days with my family and following the rules of my boyfriend’s family and expecting my family to understand why I was doing it. They had no room for negotiation and I had to remember my own family’s rules fast because by following someone else’s I was breaking my own family’s …show more content…
My family took pregnancy as a very serious situation and if one of us were to get pregnant we were to stay with that person and eventually get married. If one of us were to get pregnant before marriage I’m not sure what would happen. My grandfather, when he was alive, was very old fashioned and strict about it. We were too scared to get ourselves in the situation of getting pregnant and having to tell him. As for the Bento family it was a little bit different. They were not necessarily okay with getting pregnant and not being married but there wasn’t as much pressure as there was in my