Four Stages Of Domestic Violence

What is domestic violence? This issue has a variety of definitions but it is important to understand it and know what it really is. Often time’s domestic violence is defined just as physical abuse, but there is more to that. Domestic violence is referred to as physical assault, battery, sexual assault or any other abusive behavior (NCADV). This epidemic is a big issue in society it affects many individuals and can occur to anyone. There are different types and stages of domestic abuse, different causes and who are affected the most. Domestic violence can occur in many different forms. It is important to know the types of abuse in order to be able to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship. Every relationship has arguments, but it depends …show more content…
Beginning with incident, this stage is when the abuse occurs, being any of the 4 types of abuse. The second stage is Tension building during this stage is where the violence begins, “ the abuser starts to get angry, there is a breakdown of communication, the victim feels the need to keep the abuser calm, tension becomes too much” (Cycle of Violence). The third stage is the making up, during this stage the abuser apologizes and promises that it will never happen again, but during this stage the abuser could also flip the story and blame the victim for everything that happened. This often leads to the person getting abused accepting that it was their fault to begin with. Thus giving the abuser the idea that it is okay to keep abusing. The last stage is the Calm, during this stage the abuser gives gifts to the victim and acts like nothing happened, no abuse is occurring during this stage. It’s just simply the abuser trying to apologize and continue making false promises. The Cycle of Violence can occur multiple times in an abusive relationship, and it just keeps repeating over and over. Unless the strings are broken the cycle will continue to reoccur and will begin to get worse. The making up stage may disappear and slowly it will just be the abuse. The types and stages are just some of the information to domestic violence, the big question is why? What are the …show more content…
There are multiple factors that can cause domestic violence but it is still hard to understand why hurt the person you love. Even though domestic violence causes are more people finding excuses to hit their significant other it is still not acceptable to abuse others. The causes begin from physical, emotional and environmental causes. The emotional cause of the abuse begins with the partner feeling the need to control their partner due to jealousy, low self-esteem, anger management, lack of communication skills, and little to no self-control. Environmental causes can begin from past violence in childhoods to past experiences as an adult. An article by Toby D. Goldsmith states how a child growing up in a violent environment are affected when they grow up, either becoming the abuser or being the