The Five Stages In The Film 500 Days Of Summer

In the film (500) Days of Summer, Tom and Summer came together and then came apart throughout the entire movie. They were either coming together and Tom was on cloud nine, or they were coming apart and Tom was suffering. Coming together and coming apart in a relationship both have five stages that Tom and Summer went through during their relationship.
Mark Knapp’s relationship model explains how relationships grow and last and how they crumble and end. The five stages for coming together are initiating, experimenting, intensifying, integrating, and bonding. Initiating is deciding if the other is attractive by looking at their physical appearance. This happened in the movie when Tom sees Summer for the first time during a meeting. Tom instantly …show more content…
They did not avoid each other that much, just spent less time together until Summer finally terminated the relationship they had. In the terminating stage, partners sometimes come together for a final exchanging of words. This exchange of words did not happen until the very end when Tom was on the bench and Summer was there too where they spoke about what went wrong in their relationship and Summer apologizing for leading Tom on for so long. The stages of coming apart were a lot harder on Tom than Summer because he thought that he could change her mind about love, fate, and relationships.
The ending of 500 Days of Summer was interesting because it talked about how Tom no longer believed in fate, but everything that happens is pure coincidence. He did not chalk things up to fate anymore, he did not believe in soul mates, and he did not believe that everything happens for a reason. Tom saw no reason in believing these things because it only got him hurt. In the end, people need to do what they think is best for themselves to move on after a tough