To begin with, the event that I attended at Harper college in October really opened my …show more content…
In a healthy relationship there is trust, respect, no physical or emotional violence, and most importantly it’s imperative that the person isn’t controlling. It’s often easy to not see that one is being controlled when in a intimate relationship. A person can be so in love with a person that they don’t even notice that all of a sudden they are being pulled away from friends/ family or avoiding going out because they don’t want to upset their partner. Often friends and family can see what’s going on in emotional abuse and will try to warn the person but frequently the person will not see any of this and become defensive. What happens when an unhealthy relationship goes too far though? Women are often too scared to call 911 when physical abuse occurs. Some reasons being that they are scared of losing money, their house, or even their children. However, when the decision is made to call the police two officers go in because a number of times the situation could be violent and there is always two sides of the story. In Carpentersville alone there has been 532 domestic disturbance calls within this year. Also a new law has been passed that police are able to make an arrest without the victim wanting to press charges. I believe this to be a good thing because it can give the victim an order of protection meaning that the person who committed this crime can’t just post bail and go right back to the victim. Thankfully there are shelters like the Community Crisis Center and Wings to help aid victims. In fact Wings offers counseling for people of domestic violence for two years. As I said before though there are not nearly enough shelters for domestic violence survivors but hopefully this will change in the years