The Family Crucible: Augustus Y, Napier, with Carl Whitaker
Definition:
“A place or occasion or sever test or trial”
“A place or situation in which different elements interact to produce something new.”
Notable quote:
“Can’t spell families without lies”
The following excerpts and main points directly extracted from the book
The Question of Structure
The family:
David Brice: Father, tall square-shouldered man wearing glasses, seemed at once assertive, alert, friendly, and afraid. Work involved intellect
Carolyn Brice: Wife, a slight woman, almost pretty, wore expensive tailored suit, appeared angry as well as depressed.
Claudia Brice: Adolescent Daughter, prettier than mother, very anxious and very angry, ashamed to be there as the identified …show more content…
Carolyn was referred by Claudia’s psychiatrist. Claudia and Carolyn have been fighting and Claudia wanted to run away. Stress in family was high and did not want Laura exposed to it.
• Carl used humor to defuse tension in the office and used self-disclosure which appeared to be used for inserting himself into the family by bonding.
• Even though Don was not there, therapy had begun. Carl and Gus were engaged in subtle, predictable, and important contest with the family about who would be present at session. Counselors revealed what they had to offer the family and the relationship; good-humor liking for each other, an ability to cooperate, and insistence on remaining themselves (modeling). By sharing personal insight, they were modeling the importance to search for personal unconscious agendas.
• Before delving deeper, the counselors insisted that the whole family be there because the problem was bigger than just one person’s …show more content…
• The counselors aided the family to take initiative, when they were blocked the counselors would intervene and provide a sense of safety then told the family what they experienced and saw to create growth.
I like hearing how Gus’s mind works during the counseling session, constantly self-monitoring. I also love the counselors monitor the family and then interpret their struggle.
The Basic Conflict
• We want to help the family but are at war with them. The family consciously comes in to help a family member but we want to redefine the problem that requires family change.
• Every family is a miniature society, social order with rules, structure, leadership, style, and zeitgeist. Everything that has happened to them is alive in their system.
• By coming into therapy the family has admitted their model for living has at least temporarily failed.
• Fault finding is a part of the counselor’s job: o Stress
Normal wear and tear of living
Acute situational stress- predictable crisis
Interpersonal stress- conflict and disunity
Intrapersonal stress-a person war with
Definition:
“A place or occasion or sever test or trial”
“A place or situation in which different elements interact to produce something new.”
Notable quote:
“Can’t spell families without lies”
The following excerpts and main points directly extracted from the book
The Question of Structure
The family:
David Brice: Father, tall square-shouldered man wearing glasses, seemed at once assertive, alert, friendly, and afraid. Work involved intellect
Carolyn Brice: Wife, a slight woman, almost pretty, wore expensive tailored suit, appeared angry as well as depressed.
Claudia Brice: Adolescent Daughter, prettier than mother, very anxious and very angry, ashamed to be there as the identified …show more content…
Carolyn was referred by Claudia’s psychiatrist. Claudia and Carolyn have been fighting and Claudia wanted to run away. Stress in family was high and did not want Laura exposed to it.
• Carl used humor to defuse tension in the office and used self-disclosure which appeared to be used for inserting himself into the family by bonding.
• Even though Don was not there, therapy had begun. Carl and Gus were engaged in subtle, predictable, and important contest with the family about who would be present at session. Counselors revealed what they had to offer the family and the relationship; good-humor liking for each other, an ability to cooperate, and insistence on remaining themselves (modeling). By sharing personal insight, they were modeling the importance to search for personal unconscious agendas.
• Before delving deeper, the counselors insisted that the whole family be there because the problem was bigger than just one person’s …show more content…
• The counselors aided the family to take initiative, when they were blocked the counselors would intervene and provide a sense of safety then told the family what they experienced and saw to create growth.
I like hearing how Gus’s mind works during the counseling session, constantly self-monitoring. I also love the counselors monitor the family and then interpret their struggle.
The Basic Conflict
• We want to help the family but are at war with them. The family consciously comes in to help a family member but we want to redefine the problem that requires family change.
• Every family is a miniature society, social order with rules, structure, leadership, style, and zeitgeist. Everything that has happened to them is alive in their system.
• By coming into therapy the family has admitted their model for living has at least temporarily failed.
• Fault finding is a part of the counselor’s job: o Stress
Normal wear and tear of living
Acute situational stress- predictable crisis
Interpersonal stress- conflict and disunity
Intrapersonal stress-a person war with