An example of messing with people’s feelings is simply an attempt to convert mutually shared attributes based on gender dissimilarities, to ownership. I am talking about unique qualities that you own to the exclusion of your sex partner because of gender-type, which you attempt to own for control purposes; they are attributes meant for merging and sharing emotional experiences. Do not pretend that there is an angle of complexity to this, because in the real world of sexual relationships, men and women work harder than they should, to undermine the importance of dissimilar gender attributes meant for sharing, and go right to taking ownership of what is uniquely the other person’s. Unfortunately, the supposedly domineering partner soon becomes
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I am speaking of divorcees--people that have been married multiple times. What good advice can they provide, considering they were all losers, too? Anybody that has been married more than once should keep his mouth shut about giving advice; that includes marriage counselors, some of whom sought to become a therapist after being a failure in a series of marriages. If you are so full of wisdom, why are you here counseling out of failure and frustration and not there, nurturing a family of your own via a partnership? Quite simply, your reasons for seeking and failing at marriage are never identical to the ones you pretend to advise, so quit playing fast and loose with other people’s …show more content…
Were you a spectator and not a player in your marriage? Furthermore, as much as it was about ‘my feelings’ when a divorcee is explaining his or her side of the story, never do you hear, either person talks about how both contributed to the contamination of the relationship. That is, how well did either person use knowledge of “self” to relate to a spouse, as opposed to always trying to be an expert of that spouse’s shortcomings based on perceptions. You had it coming for insecure men and women whose insane jealousy prevented you from becoming team players in a relationship, compared with the spectator you always
I am speaking of divorcees--people that have been married multiple times. What good advice can they provide, considering they were all losers, too? Anybody that has been married more than once should keep his mouth shut about giving advice; that includes marriage counselors, some of whom sought to become a therapist after being a failure in a series of marriages. If you are so full of wisdom, why are you here counseling out of failure and frustration and not there, nurturing a family of your own via a partnership? Quite simply, your reasons for seeking and failing at marriage are never identical to the ones you pretend to advise, so quit playing fast and loose with other people’s …show more content…
Were you a spectator and not a player in your marriage? Furthermore, as much as it was about ‘my feelings’ when a divorcee is explaining his or her side of the story, never do you hear, either person talks about how both contributed to the contamination of the relationship. That is, how well did either person use knowledge of “self” to relate to a spouse, as opposed to always trying to be an expert of that spouse’s shortcomings based on perceptions. You had it coming for insecure men and women whose insane jealousy prevented you from becoming team players in a relationship, compared with the spectator you always