The Effects of a Single-Parent Household Essay

1620 Words Sep 14th, 2008 7 Pages
Children and single parenting begins with the divorce of a couple who have children. The majority of children live with their mother. Non custodial fathers usually have less contact with their children, and involvement usually declines as time goes by. Since most single-parent households are mother-headed their income is usually below that of a man, this causes economic distress and fewer opportunities for educational and extracurricular experiences for the child. Economic constraints may limit growth enhancing experiences. Even children whose fathers pay substantial child support are faced with limiting experiences. Children hate divorce because having two of the most important people in your life living apart hurts. For children, …show more content…
Children of divorced parents have frightening fantasies and dreams of being abandoned or hurt as a result of their parents rage towards each other. Carla B. Garrity and Mitchell A. Baris, authors of Caught in the Middle, explain how children of six to eight years of age, are often “directly involved” with their parents disputes. “Research suggests that parents encourage children of this age to “take part in their quarrels”. These children are like a “communication channel”. Mom may use children as “spies” to learn details at dad’s house. Dad encourages children to “harass and complain” to their mother about things he dislikes himself. Ninety-five percent of children this age witness episodes of verbal abuse between their parents” (31-32). Mothers may find themselves spending a great deal of time trying to make the father look bad. Children begin to dislike their mother for what she is doing to “dad”. In Warner Troyer’s book, Divorced Kids, he explains that, “children are often aware that their mothers’ make visits to their father difficult or unpredictable. They need predictability and do not easily forgive this form of interference” (152). Single parents of children in this age group need to understand the child's' need for attention. Being a single parent places high demands of time on the parent, however, there is only so much time in the day. The parent must go to work and then come home and handle household duties. Most times, when the child

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