The pattern is called the cycle of violence and was developed in 1979 by Lenore E. Walker. Understanding the cycle of abuse is essential in learning to help those in abusive relationships. There are three phases in the cycle of violence.In phase one, the abuser attacks his partner verbally with insults and put downs. In the first stage battering may start. “She does everything she can to keep him calm, walking on eggshells, trying to anticipate his every whim and move. As the tension builds, she becomes more passive and he, more oppressive. She blames herself for the situation” (“cycle of abuse,”1979). As a result verbal abuse begins. The victim tries to control the situation by pleasing the abuser, giving in or avoiding the abuse. None of these will stop the violence. Eventually, the tension reaches a boiling point and physical abuse begins. In phase two, the tensions that have built up in phase one finally erupts into violence. Then following this battering incident, stage three, the couple moves into the third and final phase of the cycle. When the batterer becomes extremely apologetic and loving it is called the honeymoon stage. He begs for forgiveness and promises it will never happen again. The victim falls for the apologies and eventually the abuse starts …show more content…
Perpetrators use these constructions of femininity to justify abuse. According to bjs.gov, the number of victimizations committed by an intimate partner increased to a 90% confidence level from 2014 to 2015. In 2015, The number of domestic violence reports was 1,094,660. That number is expected to be higher since battery is hardly ever spoken about. People who have not been through domestic violence often wonder why victims don’t speak up. The reason may be because people do not seem to believe the woman. It is the biggest fear of a woman who is being abused that people will not believe her. Every single day a women is abused by the hands of their boyfriends, husbands and other males in their lives. It is important to be educated in violence against women, but sometimes not everyone has a sympathetic ear. Because not everyone has a sympathetic spot for the abuse, it is essential that we teach and create more programs such as (WAGGS) and CSW on ways to prevent violence against women so that the younger generation can end the cycle of