The Effect of Divorce on Children
The beginning years of a child 's life are likely to be the most important when it comes to determining their future. Children rely on repetitive notions throughout their childhood to get through a normal day. They will learn when it is time to go to school and when it is time to eat breakfast or dinner because they go through those things on a daily basis. It has been proven that children learn best through repetition. When something is taken out of a child’s routine or a major change is made to a their life, it will affect them drastically. They will be forced to learn a whole new way of life. The major effects of divorce on a child are the fear of abandonment, constant self blame, and anger towards …show more content…
Most of the time, the anger will be directly faced at the parent that is leaving rather than both. Children do not seem to see that divorce is almost always a two part deal. In most states, both parties must sign divorce papers before it can be finalized. Children will bottle up their anger over time and eventually go on a rampage of hate towards one parent or take all their anger out through rebellious acts. This could cause the child to not pay attention in school or to potentially get in serious trouble. I began to see these acts in myself many years ago. I did not want to be around my father, nor did I ever want to talk to him. I had myself convinced that if he did not want me, I did not want him. Part of me absolutely hated him for leaving. I began to not follow any rules at home. I would intentionally do things to get myself in trouble just because I was so mad. My anger started to spread out more, and I eventually hated the whole world for causing all of this to happen to me. With time, my anger subdued and I began to fully understand the real cause for my parents’ split.
The effects of divorce on children are countless. They range from fear to anger then even, in severe cases, to mental issues. Divorce can even cause a child to become depressed. Sometimes a parent cannot always tell from their child 's actions that they are being gravely affected. Some people go as far to say that children are the world’s best actors and actresses. Dr. Judith S. Wallerstein is quoted
The beginning years of a child 's life are likely to be the most important when it comes to determining their future. Children rely on repetitive notions throughout their childhood to get through a normal day. They will learn when it is time to go to school and when it is time to eat breakfast or dinner because they go through those things on a daily basis. It has been proven that children learn best through repetition. When something is taken out of a child’s routine or a major change is made to a their life, it will affect them drastically. They will be forced to learn a whole new way of life. The major effects of divorce on a child are the fear of abandonment, constant self blame, and anger towards …show more content…
Most of the time, the anger will be directly faced at the parent that is leaving rather than both. Children do not seem to see that divorce is almost always a two part deal. In most states, both parties must sign divorce papers before it can be finalized. Children will bottle up their anger over time and eventually go on a rampage of hate towards one parent or take all their anger out through rebellious acts. This could cause the child to not pay attention in school or to potentially get in serious trouble. I began to see these acts in myself many years ago. I did not want to be around my father, nor did I ever want to talk to him. I had myself convinced that if he did not want me, I did not want him. Part of me absolutely hated him for leaving. I began to not follow any rules at home. I would intentionally do things to get myself in trouble just because I was so mad. My anger started to spread out more, and I eventually hated the whole world for causing all of this to happen to me. With time, my anger subdued and I began to fully understand the real cause for my parents’ split.
The effects of divorce on children are countless. They range from fear to anger then even, in severe cases, to mental issues. Divorce can even cause a child to become depressed. Sometimes a parent cannot always tell from their child 's actions that they are being gravely affected. Some people go as far to say that children are the world’s best actors and actresses. Dr. Judith S. Wallerstein is quoted